the maid came on the day we went to collect dad's ashes. the maid was supposed to look after dad. now, given dad's demise, the maid will now look after mum. due to this, mum has decided to move in to brother's place. initially, i was rather disappointed as i had assumed that mum's moving out was due to her unhappiness with me (for whatever reasons). but i told myself it would not be productive to make such assumptions and that as long as she is happy, i will be happy.
i asked if she wanted to stay with my brother permanently henceforth when i met her on my dad's 7th day prayers. she said yes and cried. i know she was crying becos she was sad of my dad's demise, but i think my questions made her cry even more becos she had dramatise the whole issue of her moving out. this i concluded after she asked me to look after myself, that i should sleep early, not stay out late, etc etc etc. it was also at that moment that i could sense her reluctance to leave my place. i could also sense her worries about me. guess mothers are mothers after all. never ending worries about their children. and regardless of how old you are, you will always be a little boy in their eyes.
anyway, 2 days later, when i visited her at my brother's place, she told me that she will come back to stay at my place on weekends. that i should pick her up on fridays and sent her back to my brother's place either on mondays or tuesdays. the maid will also come along. well, i think this would be a win win solution for all of us. on one hand, she gets to see both her sons. on the other hand, her staying with me also allows my sisters to visit her. and of cos, she would be looked after by the maid.
nb: it would be interesting to see the maid's reaction when bee bee stays over and she see us together. wonder how she would take to it...
i asked if she wanted to stay with my brother permanently henceforth when i met her on my dad's 7th day prayers. she said yes and cried. i know she was crying becos she was sad of my dad's demise, but i think my questions made her cry even more becos she had dramatise the whole issue of her moving out. this i concluded after she asked me to look after myself, that i should sleep early, not stay out late, etc etc etc. it was also at that moment that i could sense her reluctance to leave my place. i could also sense her worries about me. guess mothers are mothers after all. never ending worries about their children. and regardless of how old you are, you will always be a little boy in their eyes.
anyway, 2 days later, when i visited her at my brother's place, she told me that she will come back to stay at my place on weekends. that i should pick her up on fridays and sent her back to my brother's place either on mondays or tuesdays. the maid will also come along. well, i think this would be a win win solution for all of us. on one hand, she gets to see both her sons. on the other hand, her staying with me also allows my sisters to visit her. and of cos, she would be looked after by the maid.
nb: it would be interesting to see the maid's reaction when bee bee stays over and she see us together. wonder how she would take to it...
1 comment:
I guessed your mum still loves and care for you. There could be some misunderstanding when you asked her whether she would like to stay with your brother permanently. She might be in a dilemma of letting you live your life as you choose to but on the other hand not in total acceptance of the "abnormal" relationship. Her worries are just what a normal mother would have.
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