wrote about thomas some time back in may this year. found out that francis also know him and i have only recently started to talk more to him. surprisingly, thomas and francis came to the dad's wake recently. nice person. a bit shy and came across as aloof initially. francis has always been telling me to initiate the conversation or else thomas will just keep quiet. interestingly, we share the same mbti profile - isfj. found out about it in facebook :-) so that gives me a bit more confidence when it comes to talking to him. knowing his profile tells me that he is probably not aloof as i had thought. i am glad i finally got to know him.
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as i mentioned, my free time on weekends would be spent tanning by myself at the beach. this was something i had done since early 90s. last year, sometime in sep/ oct, i noticed a fresh face - thomas. admittedly, i thought he was very cute, or perhaps it was cos he was a fresh face amidst the dwindling numbers of people over the years at the beach. i was very interested to know him. nothing beats getting to know a new friend in this rather homophobic society. and if possible to have someone to chat or even a tan buddy. but as usual, i get cold feet when it comes to initiating conversations and end up taking glances. and, many a times, i guessed i must have come across as cruising him (or perhaps i was... hahaha - bee bee will kill me for this). but i never got about talking to him. too shy. it hit a point when i thought he was offended by my stares and i had to pen an apology and placed on his windscreen when i left that place. i saw him a few more times and in time to come, i came to look for his car whenever i go tanning. and i would keep a look out for him and his car whenever i go tanning. once, he did not put sufficient car parking coupons and i ended up putting it for him (he eventually wanted to return one unused one to me... heh heh).
eventually, i plucked up my courage to say hello. it took another long painful few months before we exchanged numbers. and of cos another painful many months before i dare to msn him... and during these months, there were many things i learned about him - his job, his workplace, his dietary habits, his house, etc etc etc. now we have become msn buddies. nonetheless, i still think i will be too shy to be tan buddies with him.... heh :-) it would be rather awkward lo...
such was the tensions of trying to get to know more friends in the gay circle... ha.
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as i mentioned, my free time on weekends would be spent tanning by myself at the beach. this was something i had done since early 90s. last year, sometime in sep/ oct, i noticed a fresh face - thomas. admittedly, i thought he was very cute, or perhaps it was cos he was a fresh face amidst the dwindling numbers of people over the years at the beach. i was very interested to know him. nothing beats getting to know a new friend in this rather homophobic society. and if possible to have someone to chat or even a tan buddy. but as usual, i get cold feet when it comes to initiating conversations and end up taking glances. and, many a times, i guessed i must have come across as cruising him (or perhaps i was... hahaha - bee bee will kill me for this). but i never got about talking to him. too shy. it hit a point when i thought he was offended by my stares and i had to pen an apology and placed on his windscreen when i left that place. i saw him a few more times and in time to come, i came to look for his car whenever i go tanning. and i would keep a look out for him and his car whenever i go tanning. once, he did not put sufficient car parking coupons and i ended up putting it for him (he eventually wanted to return one unused one to me... heh heh).
eventually, i plucked up my courage to say hello. it took another long painful few months before we exchanged numbers. and of cos another painful many months before i dare to msn him... and during these months, there were many things i learned about him - his job, his workplace, his dietary habits, his house, etc etc etc. now we have become msn buddies. nonetheless, i still think i will be too shy to be tan buddies with him.... heh :-) it would be rather awkward lo...
such was the tensions of trying to get to know more friends in the gay circle... ha.
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Hey friend, you "isfj"? Thought you might be closer to "e". Maybe we have not spoken much, so can't confirm. One thing for sure, initially might tag you with a "t" but after the last dinner, must agree it's "f". Haha
erm, i am an extreme `i'... as for `f' or `t', well, used to be slightly `t', but now slightly `f'.
:-)
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