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1970s - 1980s - my early years
  • 1966 - baby
  • 1966 - 1969 - a baby & toddler
  • 1970 - 1973 - a kampong boy
  • 1973 - 1974 - kampong boy to hdb kid
  • 1971 - 1972 - my kindergarten
  • 1973 - 1978 - my pri school days
1980s - 1996 - growing up, coming out
  • 1979 - 1982 - my sec school days
  • 1983 - 1984 - my jc days
  • 1985 - 1987 - my ns overview
  • 1987 - a regular in nus
  • 1987 - 1991 - my tertiary education
  • 1987 - 1991 - my uni breaks
  • 1991 - 1996 - post-uni, my personal life
  • 1996 - the defining months
  • 1996 - 2000s - coming out, growing up
2005 - change
2006 - recovery & growth
2007 - foundation laying
2008 - loss
2009 - beginnings
2010 - progress
2011 - challenges
2012 - frustrations
2013 - contrast
2014 - intense
2015 - trying & eventful
2016 - turnarounds
2017 - work
2018 - mess
2019 - uneventfully fulfilling
2020 - surreal
2021 - burn out
2022 - contrast
2023 - balancing acts
2024 - reinvention
2025 - grounded, then surrendered
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20XX - my end of life & post life arrangements (looking ahead)

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This blog is about me, my thoughts and my life experiences. I am an ISFJ, and enjoys spending time by myself. I am an easy-going person and believes in living life to the fullest. I have my own set of ideals and values. Ideals and values that were shaped by my life experiences. And oh, I am gay too… if that matters.
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In 2026 - I will...

  • Remain grounded in gratitude
  • Live with purpose and compassion
  • Embrace vulnerability and courage
  • Nurture relationships that matter
  • Deepen my spiritual practice
  • Care for my health and well-being
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    my family's history

    • 1898 - 1975 my grandma
    • 1920s - now - my mum's siblings
    • 1930s - late-50s - my mum & dad
    • 1950s - mid-60s - my sisters
    • 1966 - late-60s - my brother & i

    my life

    • 1966 - baby
    • 1966 - 1969 - a baby & toddler
    • 1970 - 1973 - a kampong boy
    • 1973 - 1974 - kampong boy to hdb kid
    • 1971 - 1972 - my kindergarten
    • 1973 - 1978 - my pri school days
    • 1979 - 1982 - my sec school days
    • 1983 - 1984 - my junior college days
    • 1985 - 1987 - my national service overview
    • 1985 - my bmt
    • 1985 - 2/85 iocc (1)
    • 1985 - 2/85 iocc (2)
    • 1985 - 2/85 iocc (3)
    • 1985 - 2/85 iocc (4)
    • 1986 - 2/85 iocc (5)
    • 1986 - 1987 - completing my ns
    • 1987 - a regular in nus
    • 1987 - 1991 - my tertiary education
    • 1987 - 1991 - my uni breaks
    • 1991 - 1996 - post-uni, personal life

    what shaped me

    • 1970s - 1980s - my early years
    • 1980s - 1996 - growing up, coming out
    • 1996 - the defining months
    • 1996 - 2000s - coming out, growing up

    "i"

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    • Religion & I - Part 1
    • Religion & I - Part 2
    • 中文 & I
    • Running & I
    • Rain & I
    • Facial Hair & I
    • Food & I
    • CNY & I
    • Gardening & I
    • Bak Chang & I
    • Retirement & I

    life's defining moments

    • 2025 - dark moments
    • 2024 - singlehood after 3 decades
    • 2023 - end of corporate life
    • 2016 - losing my mum
    • 2010 - start of corporate life
    • 2009 - taking refuge
    • 2009 - post-military, a gay person
    • 2008 - losing my dad
    • 2005 - interrogated & the aftermath
    • 1996 - coming out, accepting myself
    • 1987 - signing as a regular in the military

    themes of recent years

    • 2025 - grounded, then surrendered
    • 2024 - reinvention
    • 2023 - balancing acts
    • 2022 - contrast
    • 2021 - burn out
    • 2020 - surreal
    • 2019 - uneventfully fulfilling
    • 2018 - mess
    • 2017 - work
    • 2016 - turnarounds
    • 2015 - trying & eventful
    • 2014 - intense
    • 2013 - contrast
    • 2012 - frustrations
    • 2011 - challenges
    • 2010 - progress
    • 2009 - beginnings
    • 2008 - loss
    • 2007 - foundation laying
    • 2006 - recovery & growth
    • 2005 - change

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    remembering...

    • fort road
    • national stadium
    • my kampong
    • geylang serai market

    sights & sounds of days passed

    • here without you
    • wish on my star
    • my confession
    • when u say u love me
    • mungkin nanti
    • tender
    • 遺憾
    • your love is my love
    • 双人相梦
    • 黄昏
    • 真心
    • i wanna dance with somebody
    • 太想愛妳
    • 沧海一声笑
    • 凡人歌
    • 你怎么舍得我难过
    • 谷村新司昴-すばる
    • 明天會更好
    • we are the world
    • 掌聲響起
    • 恰似你的溫柔
    • hiromi iwasaki
    • you and me against the world
    • 我心爱的小马车
    • memories of my youth
    • one summer night
    • seasons in the sun
    • beautiful sunday
    • patches
    • 小宝历险记 (xiao bao li xian ji)
    • 小青蛙 (the little frog)
    • semoga bahagia
    • childhood cartoons

    songs - coming out years

    • i love how you love me
    • 哭 (cry)
    • 心有獨鍾
    • 我比誰都清楚
    • 味道
    • 旧梦 (彭佳慧)
    • 值得
    • 如果雲知道
    • 无心伤害

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