mum's irksome habits

there are some things that mum say/ do that can irk me big time. and all these reflect either her insecurity or is a result of her paranoia (that can be so frustrating). here're some of stuffs that irks me, individually, it sounds ok, but when all come together or when one behaviour gets repeated non-stop, it can drive one up the wall...

• i do my evening exercises after she retires on weekdays. and on many mornings when i wake up and walked into the living room, she'd reprimand me, sometimes in a very curd manner - how come you come home so late last night? and she'd ask this question even during times when i did not even leave the house the night before.

• often, whenever i mentioned anything, she'd be able to justify why things happened. and she'd insist she's right although sometimes her reasoning would be totally illogical. it can be as simple as me saying "oh, today the market is not so crowded" and she'd quickly answer "of cos, today all the malays are at home becos..." or "don't you know? today is saturday, every one sleeps late..." she has her reasoning and logic for every observation i make.

• maybe it's a mother thing, but she always insist she's right (just) becos she's my mother. no further questions asked.

• she has a habit of saying "my father says..." and she'd totally believe it. like for example, she'd say "my father says whenever we leave the house, we must lock all the doors" or "my father says girls should not stay out late" or (this is a daily quote) "my father says we shouldn't eat too much for dinner cos it is not good to go to bed feeling bloated", and she says this again and again despite gorging herself with food during dinner.

• she has the habit of asking me why i use my smart phone. who was i messaging, why was i messaging, why did i need to message... and regardless of what answer i give, she would give me this look like as though she didn't believe me and/ or i was lying to her. and sometimes, she would give me this "wtf" look.

• on some evenings after work, i would find her lying on my bed. and when i asked her why she did that, she would simply tell me she's tired and wanted to rest. and she'd quickly close all the windows. and whenever i asked her why she'd close the windows, she'd say the sky is getting dark and she needs to close the windows to prevent mosquitos from entering. and at times, she would say things like she wanted to prevent people from climbing into my room. yet, she left the front door, her room windows etc open.

• on some evenings after work, she'd be watching tv and her storyline (or at least her interpretation of the tv serial) would be "husband cheats on wife" or "man is married but still has mistress" or "mistress wants to kill first wife" etc... very simple straightforward logic that often is totally different from what the show was depicting. but she believes strongly in it and insist she is correct despite you explaining the story to her in detail.

• often, we would be in a very happy mood after eating a good dinner. and as usual, i would ask her if she finds the food nice. and her response? (using her fingers to gesture counting of dollar bills) with this of cos the food would be good.

there are just too many examples and it happens on a daily basis. have learned to live with it and just "entertain" her when she gets into such mode. let her have her views, thoughts and ways. as long as she is happy. but seriously, many a times her actions can feel like a personal attack and it can be very taxing on the patience.