i would check with mum whether she is full every evening when we do our routine shopping trips post-dinner. and as always, despite gorging herself silly at times, she would tell me that she dare not eat too full as my granddad had advised her against doing so for dinner. her response would amuse me and at times, irk me as it was illogical. but i have gotten used to it over time and have assumed that becos of her dementia, it would be impossible to get a real response from her. but i was not.
last week, i tried a new questioning technique. rather than asking if she was full, i reversed the logic and asked if she was hungry. this time round, she answered that she was very full, so full that she couldn't eat anymore. i repeated the same question another day when i reduced the amount of food for her and she simply said she was just full. these answers seemed closer to what i expect cos based on the amount she took, i was able to gauge how full she was.
i find this change in tact and the response that i got rather interesting. importantly, i have learned that to get a correct response, i need to know how to ask the right questions first. and although she has dementia, her chain of thought can be influenced by the angling of my questions.
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