my lesbian ex-colleague

you know, we gays are one helluva kind... we are always so absorbed into ourselves, we do not really talk about other people other than ourselves (as gay men!). we don't even talk much about our closest community - the lesbians and transgenders (i hate macs! they always autocorrect my words... transgenders become transponders! arghhh!). it seemed like in this whole gay community, there is only one group called gaymen. also, we yak-and-yak and and bitch all the time about straights, we complain about being discriminated to the point of not seeing all the good things that have happened/ are happening to us, la la la... but i think it is a good time to pause and see things from the other perspectives and less from our self-centric angles. 

ok, i am ranting... 

well, lets get back to why i am writing this post... yup, it's about my lesbian ex-colleague. you see, as i surf my linkedin page earlier on, i came across a very familiar female name. i recognized this person to be a female officer in the military. and it seemed she had left the service a few years back. but what caught my attention was the fact that she looked really good! now, no, no, i said really good not becos i am attracted to her. i am gay, 100% gay k? i would even consider myself lesbian if i make out with a bottom! hahaha! ok, just joking! anyway, the reason why i said she looked really good was cos she really really looked good! confident, happy, natural smile, cheerful, smart... yup, you get it... all the positive adjectives you can find that can describe a person. but now... wait. this was certainly not the person i knew from service. during the military days, she was, yeah ok, happy and cheerful and hardworking and all. but when compared with the picture i see, she was far off back then in terms of the genuine happiness she exude now. 

also, "smart" is not a word one would usually use to describe a female. but yes, she looked very smart! and she reminded me of a typical butch. and i was curious (or you can say, kaypoh) enough check out her profile in facebook. and tada! there were so many signs of gaydom! she liked pages related to gay rights, she has photos with other butches, she has 2 cats (i donno why, but many of my lesbian friends has cats), etc etc etc. and i came to one conclusion. she is lesbian. and i also concluded that her departure from service and the conditions that now allow her to be more explicit about her sexuality did wonders to her! and for that moment, i felt a very warm feeling in me. i felt really happy to see her embracing herself so well. and most importantly, the process had made her what she is today. 

truly happy.