the book findeth its owner

i chanced upon joyce's blog when i did a search on "gay changi green" some time back. when i first read her postings, i felt sad. i felt sad that such a young girl had to go through such terrible life experiences of coming out, of depression, etc amidst teenage angst. and despite her loving family, i sensed she did not have the necessary psychological support from like-minded gay people who had previously gone through this process. she need not go through these pains all by herself like many of us did. i felt she needed some additional affirmation, encouragement and support. and so i decided to keep track of her postings and to keep an overwatch on her. ok, in short, call me kaypoh! heh heh. and i have been at it over the last 2 years. and whenever i sensed anything slightly out of place, i would drop her a note or two to give her words of encouragements. since i first chanced upon her blog, she had changed her blog applications at least twice. i have also seen her postings shift from being a tat emotional and angsty (hmm, did i spell it right?) to ones that were more reflective. interestingly, her choice of nicks also showed a growing confidence and sophistication in her as she matures. it was first "jittery". then, it was "joyce". and now, it is simply "jae". her recent postings were particular interesting as she started to ask questions relating to self-development. it was very good to see her going into such questions for it showed a growing maturity in her. it reflected well on her. i had thus far refrained from posting anything too structured about visioning and setting of objectives. but this morning, after reading her latest posting on post-frustrations benefits, i decided i should try to prod her into looking for a more structured way to self-development. but i was not sure how to go about doing it. coaching her like i did for my students in my last job was probably not the best thing to do. the challenging thing about such self-development initiatives is that one will not fully appreciate nor be motivated to do it until one is ready for it. and so, i decided to just kiv any actions and to mull over it. so i switched off my computer and started to clear my work-table and place some unread books into the bookshelf. and that was when i saw the book "the monk who sold his ferrari" staring of me! i had an extra book and did not know who to pass to. so when i saw it today, i knew on the spot that i must give it to her! not sure if it was a coincidence, but everything just fitted in so nicely. the book could give her an interesting perspective of self-development and probably help her think through in a more structured way how she could enhance her journey towards self-mastery! really, the book findeth its owner! hope it is able to help her as it did me! :-) ps: time: 10.45pm. and joyce just smsed me telling me she can't stop smiling! the book is actually on her to-buy-list! ha! yes! she is ready for it! see! as i said - the book findeth its owner! how true! how very true!