as i get old(er), i will increasingly get into a 3some (or 3-way as some calls it) relationship. that is, i, with me and myself. oh, hmmm, ahhh or perhaps more accurately, a 4some (4-way) relationship - and my penis (heh! i thought hard about what politically correct word to use but decided to call a penis a penis)!
well ok, this post is a short reflection following germs' post about we gay persons having a higher chance of feeling lonesome when we get older. superficially, it does seemed "rather expected" for us gay persons to feel so. but thinking deeper, i think it is a growing older thing rather than a gay-or-straight thing. after all, one person in all relationship is bound to die earlier than the other. right? but yeah, i supposed for gay persons, it would be a little more daunting given the added dimension of non-acceptance and/ or discrimination at the societal-level. right? hmmm...
then again, when i think about it, i pondered what the real reasons could be behind this state of loneliness. firstly, is it real or is it perceived? and if it is real, is it due to sex (or an absence of it)? or due to companionship? also, could it be a state of mind? or what other reasons could it be? i am quite sure it cannot be sex right? at that age, sex would probably be the last thing on any persons mind. and i can say that cos frankly, even at my age now (mid-40s), i can already attest the fact that the sex now is certainly not as frequent nor "violent" as the years past! haha! so, projecting forward, i am quite sure it will increasingly diminish further in its importance, frequency and intensity. hence, my starting statement that i will increasingly get into a 3-4some relationship with myself! haha!
ok, before i end up just ranting non-stop and going in circles, my take is that how lonely one feels is a function of how much he or she loves himself/ herself and accepts himself/ herself now. for if we cannot reconcile things within ourselves, we will probably end up getting into the habit of blaming everyone about everything. and when that happens, we will be living our lives in the worst possible way - feeling lonely, even when we are amongst crowds.
agree?
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hmm. this got me thinking. i shall sleep on it. haha
Loneliness come in all ages at different points of time....not necessary as we aged......B-)
if we find the right person to settle with...well..age doesnt really matter then..but of course its easier said than done. OMG im so rhetoric. hope this helps
Aiden: dont stress dont stress.... focus on your studies... haha!
Natkean: totally agree, but I think the article Germs read might have focused on discussing about more gays than straights feeling lonely as they ages... then again, without reading that article, i am not in a position to comment too much.
:-)
Shadow Wind: heh... welcome to my blog!
and hey, nice nick!
:-)
erm....I do see old elderly couples walking on the street....but never see two old men holding hands in the public...kinda sick to agree on Germ`s article....but still...old men can hold something else behind doors...sticks...walking sticks...
natkean: actually, i have seen 2 old men hold hands while walking in public. and frankly, there is nothing erotic about it. in fact, people just take it that they are 2 elderly helping each other walk... i can imagine me and bee walk hand-in-hand when i am say 65 or 70... it will probably look like a son helping his father... hahaha!
hahaha, then you better dress Bee like Santa Claus. Happy to see, happy to hold, happy to hug and definitely looked wise and old....lol
Natkean: dress him like santa claus? na... no need la... i will be the old looking like santa and he will be my son... haha! actually, it is already happening now... some people actually thought he is my son! omg right? haha!
Then next meal I shall keep on 夹菜 for you so people will say I am filial too....lol...but cant beat you to that.....多吃多吃.....haha.....Told you cant sense the angkerism already. It must be the young looking Bee.....
Hmmm thanks hor thanks... Lol
sound pathetic, lonely...
yea... hah...
btw, hoping bee and peace will be "attached" forever?! huh, life's so unpredictable, same as gayman life. karma??
Thanks. We'll work hard on it. Aiyah... When it comes to life's predictability, it is sexuality-blind la. In life, work hard for what you want and you'll get it. That's karma :-)
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