choice of perspectives (1)

mum is a super duper negative person and regardless of what issues, she will always see the negative side. and for such people, there is no use trying to convince them otherwise... here's what happened today... 

context: she has not really cleared her bowels well over the last 3-4 days. and despite clearing a little here and there, it was obvious that the main bulk has not left her system, considering the large amount of food that she took over the last few days... 

mum: i did not shit for the past many days... i am sure there is something very wrong with me. i must be dying already. my body is breaking down...

me: hmmm, cannot be la. you cleared some yesterday... the rest will probably take a while to come out. so, don't worry, everything will be ok... any case, if you are really worried, i will help apply the enema for you.

mum: no, no, no need. i am sure i am dying already... 

it took me awhile of coaxing before she finally agreed... moments later, she cleared 2 hard "pellets" of shit, probably the size slightly larger than of marbles...

mum: so much things shot out... but i think it is the fluids that you pumped in. and only 2 pellets came out. so, i think there is something very wrong with me. i must be dying already. my body is breaking down.

me: hmmm, cannot be la. you should understand. the 2 pellets had caused the obstruction. i am sure in time to come, the rest will come out, so don't worry. you will be fine. any case, if you are really worried that the earlier enema is not effective, i will help apply another one for you.

mum: no, no, no need. i am sure i am dying already... 

i left her to watch the tv and 2 hours later, i saw her rushing to the toilet...

mum: i shat so much in my diapers.... and then when i went into the toilet, i shat so much more. how can this be, i am sure there is something very wrong with me. i must be dying already. my body is breaking down...

me: hmmm, cannot be la. you cleared 2 pellets earlier, and i am sure all these coming out now is becos the blockage has been removed. so, it is a good thing.

mum: no, no, no. cannot be. i have never shat so much, i am sure i am dying already... 

hmmm... challenging right? no shit also dying, shit also dying... i decided against convincing her but just to assure her that everything is alright and that she is fine... and this is something that happen very often, be it about shitting, peeing, eating... anything! she is just convinced about the negative angle of things. but of cos, there is one very important thing i learned from her through all these - and that is patience. 

:-)