had lunch with willie and derek yesterday. it was good to be able to catch up with them finally. i guess it is our past and our common experiences in the organisation that had brought us and bounded together.
i had known derek since late '90s, and willie since 2001. and subsequently, through derek, i got to know darius and soon the group expanded to include roger and simon. and at a particular dinner at park mall one day, the 6 joked about calling ourselves `miu'. in a way, miu was a loosely organised group that agreed to keep in touch and to help each other in times of need. and in a sort of way, we were a closed support group. time passed, we continue meeting up, interacted, socialised, bitched about work and what have yous. and at times, one or two of us would want to push the boundary and wanted to have something more organised - an expanded support group that reaches out to the wider community in our organisation, a network that covers across organisations in the country, etc etc etc. it sounded good and was very ambitious. but then again, we decided against it for we knew at that time that it was probably not very appropriate (be it from the organisation angle or to the discomfort of some individuals amongst us). and so we dropped the idea. anyway, shall not talk too much about miu here. back to my lunch.
the lunch was good. excellent food. and the company was even better. the conversation revolved around catching up on each others' life since we last met, our past, and of course our present - how things have changed, new partners, new developments at work, new personal challenges, and so on. and all too soon, it was time to part.
as i drove off with derek, i reflected how we have all had different experiences in our personal lives through these years. as individuals, we have all `grown up' since our early out-of-closet days, how we each had our cruising days, tested the ways of relationships, matured and in our own ways, eventually found balance and self-confidence in our own lives. and at the workplace, struggled with our organisation-self tensions and move on. and so far, all have left the organisation. i will join their ranks very soon.
personally, i have a slightly different special affinity and depth of relationship for each one of them. and i believe we each have different affinities to each others. also, we have this unsaid rule to respect each others' space and accept each other. and i believed this kept us going. we have seen each other through quite a bit of things and despite the ups and downs over the years, we have kept in touch and our friendship has remained strong. these days, we do not catch up with one another as frequently. and so, to keep pace with their lives, i'd follow their blogs, their facebook as well as the occasional msn status updates. and i would drop a note or two to them when and if i sense they may need some encouragement or support.
i am very happy to them as my friends.
:-)
i had known derek since late '90s, and willie since 2001. and subsequently, through derek, i got to know darius and soon the group expanded to include roger and simon. and at a particular dinner at park mall one day, the 6 joked about calling ourselves `miu'. in a way, miu was a loosely organised group that agreed to keep in touch and to help each other in times of need. and in a sort of way, we were a closed support group. time passed, we continue meeting up, interacted, socialised, bitched about work and what have yous. and at times, one or two of us would want to push the boundary and wanted to have something more organised - an expanded support group that reaches out to the wider community in our organisation, a network that covers across organisations in the country, etc etc etc. it sounded good and was very ambitious. but then again, we decided against it for we knew at that time that it was probably not very appropriate (be it from the organisation angle or to the discomfort of some individuals amongst us). and so we dropped the idea. anyway, shall not talk too much about miu here. back to my lunch.
the lunch was good. excellent food. and the company was even better. the conversation revolved around catching up on each others' life since we last met, our past, and of course our present - how things have changed, new partners, new developments at work, new personal challenges, and so on. and all too soon, it was time to part.
as i drove off with derek, i reflected how we have all had different experiences in our personal lives through these years. as individuals, we have all `grown up' since our early out-of-closet days, how we each had our cruising days, tested the ways of relationships, matured and in our own ways, eventually found balance and self-confidence in our own lives. and at the workplace, struggled with our organisation-self tensions and move on. and so far, all have left the organisation. i will join their ranks very soon.
personally, i have a slightly different special affinity and depth of relationship for each one of them. and i believe we each have different affinities to each others. also, we have this unsaid rule to respect each others' space and accept each other. and i believed this kept us going. we have seen each other through quite a bit of things and despite the ups and downs over the years, we have kept in touch and our friendship has remained strong. these days, we do not catch up with one another as frequently. and so, to keep pace with their lives, i'd follow their blogs, their facebook as well as the occasional msn status updates. and i would drop a note or two to them when and if i sense they may need some encouragement or support.
i am very happy to them as my friends.
:-)
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