once again, we have been asked to meet up with the doctor. he has advised us that looking at the progress of my dad, he would likely discharge my dad over the next couple of days. he also asked us to consider the post-discharge care for him given that he needs a lot more attention now. the doctor suggested some options including specially trained domestic helpers. we asked him about the various options available and he told us that apart from domestic help, other options such as nursing homes are available. whatever the case, he said that we need to consider how we can manage my dad after discharge.
shared with him my views and uncertainties about the options. for example, my thoughts had been that domestic help may not be the full solution as he needs more medical attention and care than just simply `domestic help', and that domestic help may not know how to manage him. but on the other hand, nursing homes may come with limitations of poor environment, and so on. he agreed and told us that he would recommend a social worker to talk to us so that we can be better informed of the options available for us.
when asked how long my dad has, he gave a very muted response that while he had earlier projected 1-2 years, he was not so sure now given the frequency of the admissions. he left it at that and advised that we should be careful about his condition and that we must make sure he drinks lots of water, avoid all salt at all cost and that he needs to eat, and to pass his motion at least twice a day. kinda tricky and difficult to achieve but we have to.
on a separate note, i could see how each and everyone in the family (especially my brother) has been trying to convince people around me about the domestic help. it is very interesting to see the politics at play currently. kinda sickening if you ask me, but it is happening. how one person who do not want to talk to the other try to influence people around him to sway decision making. interestingly, also, when i suggested that we should all pay for the domestic help, a quick response was - i got no money. how much more sad can such a situation be. very hypocritical if you ask me. but well, it happens i guess. and as i said, managing the sick is easier.
shared with him my views and uncertainties about the options. for example, my thoughts had been that domestic help may not be the full solution as he needs more medical attention and care than just simply `domestic help', and that domestic help may not know how to manage him. but on the other hand, nursing homes may come with limitations of poor environment, and so on. he agreed and told us that he would recommend a social worker to talk to us so that we can be better informed of the options available for us.
when asked how long my dad has, he gave a very muted response that while he had earlier projected 1-2 years, he was not so sure now given the frequency of the admissions. he left it at that and advised that we should be careful about his condition and that we must make sure he drinks lots of water, avoid all salt at all cost and that he needs to eat, and to pass his motion at least twice a day. kinda tricky and difficult to achieve but we have to.
on a separate note, i could see how each and everyone in the family (especially my brother) has been trying to convince people around me about the domestic help. it is very interesting to see the politics at play currently. kinda sickening if you ask me, but it is happening. how one person who do not want to talk to the other try to influence people around him to sway decision making. interestingly, also, when i suggested that we should all pay for the domestic help, a quick response was - i got no money. how much more sad can such a situation be. very hypocritical if you ask me. but well, it happens i guess. and as i said, managing the sick is easier.
2 comments:
i've been following the last couple of mails but have been reticent as i have no idea what to say. There isn't much that can help & i certainly do not envy yr predicament.
... i wouldn't even attempt to say anything... but do know that u are in my thoughts & i'm keeping all appendages crossed that the situation wouldn't be too bad.
luv
thanks. guess these are things that will happen whether one likes it or not.
will have to manage no matter what and thanks again. certainly felt encouraged by the words.
j
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