my dad has been crying quite a bit of late. i think he sensed the difficulties in the family. and the key issue that worries him is that we end up quarreling and fighting amongst us siblings.
when i visited him yesterday, i reminded him that this time round, when he goes home, he cannot insist on salty food, he cannot not drink water and that he must be careful of his diet. he said ok. then he cried again, and asked me not to quarrel with my brother when he dies. there is nothing i can say except that he should tell that to my brother. he nodded his head. he knows that i am not one to pick a fight or start a quarrel. and he repeated that he does not want to see us quarrel and fight in the family. and that if we do so, he shall not rest in peace.
i could sense his urgency to keep the family intact. but i am cock sure, that once my parents goes, we will all go our separate ways, or at least my brother will disappear from all our lives. no, i do not feel sad about it. just acknowledging it as a fact that will eventually unfold. a fact that was a result of favouritism and failure by my parents to discipline my brother when he strayed/ misbehave, and choosing to chide us for not giving in to the youngest.
well, of course, it is not a time to blame. rather, for my dad, it is time to come together, or at least to keep quiet, and let him spent the rest of his remaining time peacefully.
when i visited him yesterday, i reminded him that this time round, when he goes home, he cannot insist on salty food, he cannot not drink water and that he must be careful of his diet. he said ok. then he cried again, and asked me not to quarrel with my brother when he dies. there is nothing i can say except that he should tell that to my brother. he nodded his head. he knows that i am not one to pick a fight or start a quarrel. and he repeated that he does not want to see us quarrel and fight in the family. and that if we do so, he shall not rest in peace.
i could sense his urgency to keep the family intact. but i am cock sure, that once my parents goes, we will all go our separate ways, or at least my brother will disappear from all our lives. no, i do not feel sad about it. just acknowledging it as a fact that will eventually unfold. a fact that was a result of favouritism and failure by my parents to discipline my brother when he strayed/ misbehave, and choosing to chide us for not giving in to the youngest.
well, of course, it is not a time to blame. rather, for my dad, it is time to come together, or at least to keep quiet, and let him spent the rest of his remaining time peacefully.
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