how was your lny?

"how was your lunar new year (lny) uncle?" that was a question posed to me by someone via whatsapp. well... it's a loaded question if you want to read deep into it. but as usual, i reply loaded question with an equally loaded answer. i said "i had a very uncle lny"!

heh heh... then again, really, for many singles and that includes all glbts, lnys are something to be avoided. i mean, with the common questions related to "when are you getting a boyfriend/ girlfriend?", "when are you getting married?" etc, it has become somewhat of a terror festival. can't people just simply don't ask about such things during lunar new years? haha... then again, if people don't ask about such things, what else can they ask right? there are only so much people can talk about the rain and the clouds... so questions related to first son, to second son, to third son (and daughters) will invariably come into the conversation right? so, it was for such reasons that many single people hide themselves from visiting relatives or visit relatives... well, perhaps it is ok and perfectly fine when one is young, but when one gets into the mid-20s, hmmm...

as for me, i do enjoy such gatherings. and over the years, i have learned to dodge such questions. my answers to questions from aunties about "when am i getting married" will include lines like "oh, when my turn comes, i will sure invite you one..." or "aiyah, don't ask me la, your son also not married what? so when is he getting married?" or "when your son get married, i will also get married lor" (for that record, my cousin's gay too so i know i will not be treading into deep waters with such answers)... and of cos in recent years, "aiyah, nowadays getting married is no longer in fashion! my mum always says in future got someone to look after me, who knows, in future i will have to look after her instead..." and then i will laugh it off. so...

anyway, back to the question "how as your lny uncle?", well, frankly, i visited bee and a close friend. and today i brought my mum to visit my brother and to look after my nephew (he is such a bundle of joy at 2 months old!). that was it. otherwise, it was simply resting at home, watching tv and eating lny goodies. then again, lny is still not over yet. there are still 12 days to go. so... yup, tomorrow, we will be receiving the kitchen god from heaven (or at least, my brother will be doing it), this saturday (7th day of lny), we will be celebrating man's birthday by having yu sheng, and on sunday (8th day of lny), we will be celebrating the celestial god's birthday by making offering at midnight. and finally on the 15th day of lny, we will be having a small reunion dinner again before the lny celebrations formally ends. and as to the question about whether i receive any ang pows, yes i did. nowadays, i will not reject ang pows like i previously did. instead, i would accept it graciously when given. after all, there is joy in giving, there is joy in receiving, and i am sure i give people the joy and satisfaction to know that i am receiving what they offer right? 

so, how was your lny thus far?

haha...