friends & lovers

last week, i got news from a dear friend of mine that he and his partner will be `cooling off' for two weeks to re-evaluate their relationship. when i heard that, i was surprised to a certain extend. they had been together for about 2 years and from what bee and i could see, they complemented each other rather well. where one was playful, the other was serious (relatively), where one was quiet, the other was chatty... of cos, in many other small ways, they had their differences too. but what mattered most to us as friends were that they tried to adapt and give in to each other wherever they could, or so we thought.

so when we eventually received news of the break-up, we took it in stride. bee was depressed for a while. it was too sudden for him. without asking for details, my guess was that over time, their comfort level with each other has perhaps resulted in unexpressed expectations, or perhaps also unmet expectations and this had created tensions. whatever the case, the details of any relationship could only be fully understood by the two parties involved. having gone through my break-up with james, i told myself that i should, particularly at this point in time, be there to provide any support that they may need. one thing is for sure, bee and i will continue to be good friends with both parties. there will not be issues of taking sides. managing the break-up is in itself a difficult thing to do for both parties, and as a friend, i shall not add to the stress as i had experienced with james' friends.