didn't feel good when i saw how mum gave the maid the black face. how she spoke rudely to the maid. and despite communicating in hokkien, i still didn't agree with how insensitive she was when she made a lot of negative remarks about the maid's behavior after she noticed her talking to other maids at the rehab center and using the phone at night, etc… to me, her complains sounded like the tensions she had with my previous maid and reeked so much of my brother's unkind words about her. my brother had time and again frowned upon and many a time chided my previous maid for talking to other foreign maids at the market, when she spoke on the phone at night, etc. to him, he strongly believed that all these would influence the maid negatively. and apart from chiding her, my brother would also complained to my mum about it. mum had since learned to framed these as absolute no-nos over time for maids.
for me, while i do not actively encourage her to socialize, i am actually glad that she did. i strongly believe that maids are human after all and has their own needs to connect with people. and i would leave her to do as she please during her free time as long as she does her work well. but these are things that i cannot convinced mum about. and despite explaining to her my point of view, mum could only remember what my brother told her. and so i have to end up listening to mum's complains constantly. its very unfair to the maid and certainly very very regrettable. nonetheless, i did not intervene much when mum made all these allegations but simply tried to change the topic as much as i could. i couldn't risk having mum suspecting me of being in cahoots with the maid at this point in time. and to make things worst, i could not talk to the maid alone without mum getting suspicious. and so, i had to find opportunities whenever i could to explain to the maid about mum's condition and that mum didn't mean all the things she said. thankfully, the maid is understanding and took it in stride. i believe that by now, my maid is able to play along with what i do/ say and take my cues.
let's hope things stay ok.
for me, while i do not actively encourage her to socialize, i am actually glad that she did. i strongly believe that maids are human after all and has their own needs to connect with people. and i would leave her to do as she please during her free time as long as she does her work well. but these are things that i cannot convinced mum about. and despite explaining to her my point of view, mum could only remember what my brother told her. and so i have to end up listening to mum's complains constantly. its very unfair to the maid and certainly very very regrettable. nonetheless, i did not intervene much when mum made all these allegations but simply tried to change the topic as much as i could. i couldn't risk having mum suspecting me of being in cahoots with the maid at this point in time. and to make things worst, i could not talk to the maid alone without mum getting suspicious. and so, i had to find opportunities whenever i could to explain to the maid about mum's condition and that mum didn't mean all the things she said. thankfully, the maid is understanding and took it in stride. i believe that by now, my maid is able to play along with what i do/ say and take my cues.
let's hope things stay ok.
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