uncomfortable anticipation. this is probably how I would describe my feeling now about having my mum stay with my brother over the 10-days when my domestic worker goes for her home leave.
the domestic worker will return this wednesday morning and i will be sending mum over on tuesday evening. my sis-in-law readily and happily said she'll look after mum when i asked. but thinking about all the things we do for mum as a routine, her habits, her behaviour changes daily, i am fearful if my sis-in-law can manage. and this is made worst by my brother's history of impatience and (in)ability to manage his anger when he sees/ feels something is not going his way.
of cos, i can prepare the medication, her clothes, etc, but there will be a stop to all the opportunities to interact and to get the daily dosage of mental stimulation. these are things she gets when she attends the elderly rehab center and the nightly shopping trips daily. i also suspect this change in routine would not do good to her. added to that, i am not sure if my sis-in-law can manage her behavioral changes daily at specific times of the day, the need to consciously be aware of her comfort and sleep at night, to ensure her chest remains elevated through her when she sleeps to prevent coughing, the techniques needed to hold her when helping her dress up, shower or put on diapers etc. and to make things more challenging, she is showing signs of anxiety as seen in her increased incidences of confusion, and coughing in the day...
let's see how things go. my plan is to bring her home and to take leave when and if things go out of hand or when my sis-in-law cannot manage, considering she has 2 young kids to look after at the same time.
for now, can only hope for the best.
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