lemonade

i posted this in my facebook and in no time, it garnered 30 likes. quite a record for a posting for me. but that was not the motivation behind posting it. you see, when i made the post about the complaining uncle, someone commented and disagreed with my point that the education system was good. he lamented about how rigid the local school system was, etc. but of cos, it was clear he had misread my post. i was not really commenting about the education system. i was simply reflecting how the uncle chose to see things from a half-empty rather than a half-full perspective. and so as a follow up, i made my posting below. in no time, i got half a dozen emails from people who were concerned about how i had gone through it without telling them.

well, i was kinda glad they reached out to me. i even came out to one of them. well, he was ok with it. just glad to be able to get this out in the open after almost a decade. frankly, i have moved on. but admittedly, this is something i can understand but cannot accept. but well, have just to move on right? easier said that done. i must first try to forgive, but i still cannot.

:-)

here's my facebook posting...

a quick sharing about attitudes in viewing half a glass of water. half full or half empty, it's your attitude that counts. don't ask me details, but this sharing is very personal and no replies will be given.

how many of u are aware that in may 2005, i was hauled up to msd, interrogated for a good 8 hours and humiliated by junior officers. i was subsequently stripped of my security clearance, my masters program revoked, and placed under restriction in my movements as long as i stay in service. it also caused me my possible promotion possibilities subsequently. and for a good half year, i sat in the office and just stare at the wall cos i was not even allowed to go near a computer. the feeling of employed but not deployable was not a good one, not to mention the emotional turmoil plus having to having to face my staff daily. got myself posted to scsc after a long drawn negotiation process. i continued serving in scsc until i left service in 2009.

suffered depression, and epilepsy and lost more than 15% of my body weight and almost got admitted into imh. till today, i still suffer memory lapses following that fateful event.

but if not for that event, i wouldn't have gotten the opportunity to interact with and learn so much from the many wonderful people that passed through scsc during my 4-year stay. i wouldn't have gotten the chance and opportunities to be able to hone my abilities as a people developer. and this led to my eventual decision to take up learning and development and leadership development as a path in life.

good lesson to learn here - when life deals you lemons, make lemonade.