a friend texted me this morning.
he said he felt guilty about not using the visa card particularly when the bank had waived his annual fees. to me, it was kinda weird. i thought, if you feel guilty about it, then you have the choice of stopping the subscription right? and so i asked why don't you simply stop the membership? keep your life simple. with less things, you give yourself less stress. no?
well, to me it was simple as that. but when i got his reply, i was kinda taken aback. it went if i stop the subscription, i will feel even more guilty cos the bank had waived the charges. i didn't reply further. he has gone into the cycle of damned if you do, and damned if you don't do...
sad for him. but that was him. he is a huge pessimist and regardless of whatever positive thing you tell him, he will see it negatively. his life is driven by fear and pessimism. and often, he would tell me about how he has been living a life of guilt, of being punished by god. i feel sad for him but well... he needs to get hold of himself and turn his life around, if he wants to be happy.
so... back to this basic principle if you want to have a happy life:
simplify it, don't think too much.
punished by god ? hahaha, gosh, everybody loves to put the blame on god...
ReplyDeletemy god is love, and sweetly suffers all :-)
i came across someone like that earlier this year, this guy had severe depression, all i can say is that, i tried to help him, hours and hours of talking as a friend, sharing tips on how to be positive...in the end, i realized he was dragging me along, don't know how to say it la, it's kinda err, he was spreading his negative vibes into me,i guess it is the psychological effect of talking too much to someone who is super negative minded,hahaha..... and finally at one point, i had to put a stop to it, it's like, he told me life has been very unfair to him, but honestly, i realized he was treating others badly, he happened to be a doctor, and constantly complain about the patients to me, that at one point,i went like, dude, if you complain so much, why on earth did you become a doctor....
finally ended the friendship...some humans,zzzzzzzz......
:-)
ReplyDeletethe different ways of framing god.
lol!