my second sis came to the house today to visit my mum. quite rare for her to do so cos she's always busy with her work. anyway, she dropped by and in no time started to complain about her eldest daughter.
she has started smoking and even drinks! she exclaimed. i scolded her but she just wouldn't listen. and i am so unhappy cos she blocked me. and of cos my mum added on... no, you must scold her more. if not, she will turn bad! my mum was convinced. ya, i tried and i scolded some more, but she just wouldn't heed my words!
i was kinda irked with this conversation but kept quiet. then the next thing i knew, my sis turned to me and complained about her daughter... i simply told her, she's already and adult (my niece is 25 and is a lawyer). so she should know what is right and what is not. so please let her be. at most, advice her and not scold her. let her live her life.
my sis was kinda taken aback by my response. she did not go further. but i was sure she knew my stand. i have always reminded her to let them go now that they are all adults. now, i am not an irresponsible uncle or whatever. but i strongly believe that when you kids are all grown up and working, you should just let them live their lives. if they want advice, they will get back to you. otherwise, treat them like an adult and not mother-them day in and out like as though they are still kids. teach you kids values, and if you get it right, you can be sure they will live their lives well.
no?
funny isn't it, girls are often treated like that, but as for guys, parents will find it ok, and keep quite...but then,at least your sister ok u know...my aunt, is another "ulu" case, the way she thinks really makes me wonder if she truly is my mom's sister...lol...and i pity my cousin sister, can you imagine,wearing tight jeans is a no no, and she can't even work in KL, my aunt kept pestering her to find a job in her "ulu" hometown...ZZZzZzZzzz...wo mai gad, typical Indian mothers...
ReplyDeletei think even my mom would have had been the same if i had a sister, lol...
heh... whatever the case, i am sure it was out of great intentions for them, and it's the values they have been shaped since they were kids and that they deemed it their responsibility to ensure the very best outcomes for their daughters.
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