about the ex...

just a quick random post. there are some behaviors towards exes that i think is quite common amongst many. and this include…

• cyber-stalking (be it twitter, facebook, or whatever) of the ex for a certain duration to see how he is getting along. and this stalking can continue for quite a long while…

• for reasons unknown there tend to be this silent distant that we tend to keep. it's like a certain invisible space that we refuse to breach. and this translates to not adding him in facebook, not adding him in any of the social media platform that you use…

• once a while, checking out the whether he is online or not (e.g. in facebook, in whatsapp, etc) and wondering what he is doing, and doing with who…

well… the list goes on. do i do all these? do i think of james? well, yes i do admittedly. do i still do all these after almost 9 years of breaking up? not all, some. but the frequency is really low. do i think of him? yes, but more of a curious-how-is-he-doing angle. i will be lying if i say i don't. after all, we were together for close to 7 years. 

and of cos, some people may ask - do you ever consider getting back to him? answer is no. the him now is probably a different person from the him when we broke up. an ex is an ex is an ex. what's past is passed. he now exist in a corner of the heart. nice and warm corner. and that is about it. and in many ways, he is like a distant relative to me now. nothing more. 

(i am sure some people will ask - why are you writing this now? are you being fair to bee?… well, bee and i have been together almost 9 years. we talk about such things openly. and we are very comfortable about it. there is no point hiding such things. right?)

and as i mentioned at the start of this post, it is a quick random post.

just thought i'd capture it in my blog.