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peace: Singapore; This blog is about me, my thoughts and my life experiences. I am an ISFJ, and enjoys spending time by myself. I am an easy-going person and believes in living life to the fullest. I have my own set of ideals and values. Ideals and values that were shaped by my life experiences. And oh, I am gay too… if that matters.

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In 2026 - I will...

Remain grounded in gratitude

Live with purpose and compassion

Embrace vulnerability and courage

Nurture relationships that matter

Deepen my spiritual practice

Care for my health and well-being

recent hot posts...

Retirement & I

I read a blog by RB reflecting on his post-working life and it got me thinking of my own journey too. My "retirement" journey, tha...
A Meaningful Morning

My day started exceptionally early today, but it was for a good reason! I volunteered at an old folks’ home to bring the residents out for a...
Grateful Start of Sep: Consolidation

It’s 1 Sep, and we are already 2/3 done with 2026. Is it time to start reflecting for the year? Heh… perhaps I’ll leave that to Dec lah . Fo...
Traveling...

Lately, several of my friends have asked me if I have made any travel plans, considering I have not travelled since last June. Frankly? No… ...
Refreshing...

I decided to do things differently today. I dressed up (and this is highly unusual given I am a singlet/ t-shirt casual dresser kinda person...
he's not gay!

he worked as a chiro at the clinic i used to frequent. and i always kept a look out for him whenever i visited the clinic. and of cos, he w...
Missing Intimacy

I don't even know where to start with this post. I want to talk about sex - or no, perhaps I want to talk about my libido. Or maybe it i...
Intuition?

Things will smoothen out in the end… I think it’s some kinda intuition, or perhaps I’m just quite used to how things are. You see, I’ve obs...
cruised by an indian

i have been exercising almost everyday/ every other day since the final weeks of last month. and it certainly feels good. i sleep better, i...
jack'd

funnily, i noticed a lot of people in jack'd are 23 years old. and of cos, as to be expected, many of them looked more like 32 years ol...

being gay is unnatural - is it true?

all time hotness...

"take off your pants!"

this incident occurred last friday... i went for a medical review for my plantar fasciitis. during the review, i was put through an ...
biggest embarrassment of 2015

the year had been a very stressful one for me, and perhaps it was nice that it ended with a big laugh for me. so, laugh with me, laugh ...
fort road 1 - the location

i am gonna spend time over the next few posts to capture in writing stories about "fort road". the so-called "fort road...
my resurrection as a gay man

today marks my "resurrection" as a gay man. it is my first day out of the military service officially and i am no longer bounde...
fort road 5 - characters 3

and since i am at the topic of people that frequent fort road, i shall capture in this post some of the frequent fort road beach goers (ap...
being "interviewed" by msd

i was interrogated by the military security department for being gay in may 2005. read on... during the call , i was asked to...
fort road 2 - evolution

as mentioned in my previous post, fort road was nothing but a piece of reclaimed land and the areas around it. the key developments a...
pick-up sex

this is such a sexy post! really reminds me of those good old cruising days where people prowlled the streets and car parks and make ou...

my family's history

1898 - 1975 my grandma
1920s - now - my mum's siblings
1930s - late-50s - my mum & dad
1950s - mid-60s - my sisters
1966 - late-60s - my brother & i

my life

1966 - baby
1966 - 1969 - a baby & toddler
1970 - 1973 - a kampong boy
1973 - 1974 - kampong boy to hdb kid
1971 - 1972 - my kindergarten
1973 - 1978 - my pri school days
1979 - 1982 - my sec school days
1983 - 1984 - my junior college days
1985 - 1987 - my national service overview
1985 - my bmt
1985 - 2/85 iocc (1)
1985 - 2/85 iocc (2)
1985 - 2/85 iocc (3)
1985 - 2/85 iocc (4)
1986 - 2/85 iocc (5)
1986 - 1987 - completing my ns
1987 - a regular in nus
1987 - 1991 - my tertiary education
1987 - 1991 - my uni breaks
1991 - 1996 - post-uni, personal life

what shaped me

1970s - 1980s - my early years
1980s - 1996 - growing up, coming out
1996 - the defining months
1996 - 2000s - coming out, growing up

"i"

Meaning of (My) Life
Hong Kong & I
Diversity & I
Religion & I - Part 1
Religion & I - Part 2
中文 & I
Running & I
Rain & I
Facial Hair & I
Food & I
CNY & I
Gardening & I
Bak Chang & I
Retirement & I

life's defining moments

2025 - dark moments
2024 - singlehood after 3 decades
2023 - end of corporate life
2016 - losing my mum
2010 - start of corporate life
2009 - taking refuge
2009 - post-military, a gay person
2008 - losing my dad
2005 - interrogated & the aftermath
1996 - coming out, accepting myself
1987 - signing as a regular in the military

themes of recent years

2025 - grounded, then surrendered
2024 - reinvention
2023 - balancing acts
2022 - contrast
2021 - burn out
2020 - surreal
2019 - uneventfully fulfilling
2018 - mess
2017 - work
2016 - turnarounds
2015 - trying & eventful
2014 - intense
2013 - contrast
2012 - frustrations
2011 - challenges
2010 - progress
2009 - beginnings
2008 - loss
2007 - foundation laying
2006 - recovery & growth
2005 - change

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remembering...

fort road
national stadium
my kampong
geylang serai market

sights & sounds of days passed

here without you
wish on my star
my confession
when u say u love me
mungkin nanti
tender
遺憾
your love is my love
双人相梦
黄昏
真心
i wanna dance with somebody
太想愛妳
沧海一声笑
凡人歌
你怎么舍得我难过
谷村新司昴-すばる
明天會更好
we are the world
掌聲響起
恰似你的溫柔
hiromi iwasaki
you and me against the world
我心爱的小马车
memories of my youth
one summer night
seasons in the sun
beautiful sunday
patches
小宝历险记 (xiao bao li xian ji)
小青蛙 (the little frog)
semoga bahagia
childhood cartoons

songs - coming out years

i love how you love me
哭 (cry)
心有獨鍾
我比誰都清楚
味道
旧梦 (彭佳慧)
值得
如果雲知道
无心伤害

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"and i wish i am an eagle
and i wish i can spread my wings
flying high high like a bird in the sky
over mountains and rivers and streams..."

- abba, eagle

life

“sing like no one's listening,
love like you've never been hurt,
dance like nobody's watching, and
live like its heaven on earth...”

- mark twain

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