in the forum that i read usually, there was a person who asked what gay couples can do... and he wrote about how he and his partner wanted to do certain things but thought the ideas were futile as this or that will not allow it to happen etc... in short, he simply justified how things could not be done even before trying to do them...
quite an interesting chap. and i was thinking... hmmm, then what the hell was he asking for suggestions from us, outsiders of his relationship? frankly, if we began putting and justifying barriers before we even try, then it might be better not to even let the idea surface. waste of effort altogether right? really, in life, if we think of something worth doing, then we should at least go try. nothing wrong. nothing venture, nothing gain... even if we were to be embarrassed at that moment, no one would remember us once we walk away. so? what's holding us back right? same for courtship, the most is a no... and life goes on, right?
and from what this person wrote, it reminded me of my first experience buying a car. it was 1990 and i was no more than 24 year old (damned! that was one helluva long time back!)... or was it 1993... hmmm, memory failing me... ok, never mind. at that time, i could ill afford an expensive car, but i wanted a particular brand cos the car looked good and smart. haha, yes, i know, i was and i still am superficial when it comes to such things. looks are more important than technical details. and so, without knowing anything about cars, its parts, la la la.... in short, without know what i should look for in a car, i walked into a showroom, walked up to the agent and i asked - ahhh, do you have a car that is below s$xxxxx?... i think the agent probably found me, a young looking puck freaking naive and probably bordering the whole concept of stupidity... and he simply and curtly answered, no, and went about doing his stuff. he completely ignored me!
haha... but it was an interesting experience. of course, i continued walking around the showroom, looked at how people make their transactions, and simply my showroom hopping... heh... well, my point is - if i had not tried, i would have not learned (of cos, i could have done some research before that, but at that time, when internet access was only available to top researchers, information such as car parts, performance, etc were not so easily available. and thus, such blind head on gatecrashes was one way to learn about things. and that was how i learned about many things in my early years. it was the same when i bought my house, when i took up a loan, when i got into the business of engaging lawyers, when i bought my motorbike, etc...
and i must say, it builds a person's character too...
heh heh...
last night, i decided to ice my right shoulder - the worst of the two shoulders. applied the ice pack onto my deltoids and numbed it. felt good for a while but the ache came back again once the ice pack warmed up. thankfully, the ache was not as bad and i managed to get some decent sleep. for tonight, have purchase koyok (medicated plaster) from the sinseh shop earlier and pasted it onto my shoulder and arms. so far, seemed ok. hopefully, i can get a good night sleep tonight.
and although i do not follow the rallies deliberately, it was almost impossible not to hear parts of it as it was reported in the news on tv, on the radio, in the papers, etc. and as of today, i am really tired and sick of it. so, i can imagine how traumatic it must have been for the americans to have to endure such a long period of campaigning by the 2 candidates. and it seemed not too long ago when we were put through the same process in 2008.
