context - at work. when a boss is harsh on himself by exacting very difficult demands on himself, he tend to become very harsh on the people around him too. and unfairly so becos he cannot exact everyone to behave like him. i have one business unit head who is very excitable, very selfish and very self-centric. he carries people's balls and takes pleasure in destroying people (for the right or the wrong reasons) just to make his own people look good (even if his people are worthless). so his people loves him. but his whole business unit is very excitable and all the staff in his business unit are very stressed and tensed up... hmmm...
context - in a relationship. if one feels he is not worth being loved, and denies the love and attention given to him by his loved ones, his loved ones will feel dejected, unhappy and often depressed. so in his own self-centeredness, he feels he is doing what he needs to do to protect himself. and the result - people around him gets hurt, feels dejected, depressed and the mood soured.
so? morale of the story? live the moment, give yourself a chance in life. be less harsh on yourself. you must take into considerations the impact of your behaviour on the people around you. you are you, but you are also part of a larger circle of people around. instead of being harsh, why not be happy instead? let the happiness shine.
no?
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Hi, when I was reading this, the person who came straight to mind is my hb. He has only harsh words for the Sales Designer overseeing our home renov.
Yes, she has her weaknesses and inadequacy. I told him I don't expect too much from her or anybody, as long as she gets the job done. When you don't expect a lot, there is less chance of you getting disappointed and angry.
Whenever he complains, I get a headache. And each time I went to check on the progress of the renov I could feel my heart pulsating rapidly because of fear - the fear of spotting defects in the renov which would lead to outbursts from him.
I have been trying very hard not to let his negativity affect me but it's not easy. I find it sad when the person whom I have shared 25 years of my life so far is so difficult and negative.
thanks for sharing... this can be my context 3 of my post! yup, it is difficult when people around us are harsh...
let happiness shine!
weeEEEe i see rainbows! if only...
cp, if only what?...
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