breaking up

the usual and common way to view a break up is from a negative angle. the emotions one feels during a break up (and for a while after that) can be terrible. it can consume the whole being. and if not controlled, it can destroy a person. literally. but one thing is for sure. for all break ups, time heals. and when one has regained some objectivity over the whole affair, one begins to see things in perspective. sometimes, one may even ask and wonder why and how the hell he/ she can be so mesmerized by the other party. and to a friend of mine who is undergoing this difficult period, let me pen here some possible way of seeing things from a different perspective:

• thanks for the wonderful time together. breaking up is perhaps a natural thing when we begin to see things clearer and realizing that we are very different after all. then again, not being together does not mean we cannot be friends. let us take time to close this chapter properly. to mourn and to recover emotionally. and after that, if possible, let us be the best of friends. the thing about friends is that things are easier. expectations are a lot less, and we tend to be a lot more forgiving. and in some strange way, friendship tends to last longer... then again, for now, let us have our space to recover.

• thanks for the wonderful time together. we have decided to move on but a few things are for sure. my time with you made me realized i was able to love again. it made me feel i am very much alive. the knowledge that i have the power to love, and to love deeply; and that i also have the abilities to attract another person is very powerful. but for now, let me mourn, let me nurse my spirit and my soul. it is natural that i should feel down. but once i am done with my mourning, i know i will be able to start loving again. and i know i can becos you have shown me i could.

• thanks for the wonderful time together. we have decided to move on. things are difficult for me now. it is natural for i am human. i have feelings. but sure as the sun will rise from the east, my pain will go. but during this period, i shall reflect on our times together, and look at the things i have learned. and when i recover, i will be stronger, i will be a better person. for that, thank you for giving me the opportunities to learn the lesson of life.

:-)