i have changed my fb profile to another name. and with the change in my profile name, i stopped using my facebook. i deleted all my photos, most of all my status updates, and so on. all these was done with the intention to safeguard my own sanity as i realized there were to many toxic postings about all sorts of things lately. i saddens me to also see people i know being emotional and illogical when it comes to life in general. and since stopping my fb activities, i have had quite a few interesting smses from my friends. read on.
(1) one smsed me - why did you block me from your fb? what did i do to you to deserve such a treatment? why did you stopped me from seeing your photos? it was an unexpected message, and a very interesting one. the message suggested this friend had assumed lots of things. and he had been unfair to me in these assumptions. for example, it suggests that he sees himself to be the center of my fb activities. in asking these questions, he had indirectly implied that i must keep my facebook account alive for him. that i do not have the prerogative to do what i want with my facebook account. also, the questions suggest how he sees himself to be at fault rather than ask if everything is ok with me (given that it is not often that people disappear from facebook). it seemed rather self-centric. could it be that it reflected his own insecurities? anyway, to his message, i simply replied "no la, i did not block you. i deleted everything in it". and a quick reply came - "oh...". and the conversation ended just like that. hmmmm...
(2) a couple of weeks after the incident above, bee was in town and met another friend. he used to be my fb buddy. we used to poke each other (in fb, and yes, it has an extra "b" - for "facebook" buddy and not... heh heh) and comment on each other's statuses. and he was rather curious with my sudden disappearance. his response was to see if i were still in his friend list. and when he checked, he found that i had disappeared (weird cos i did not recall deleting him from my friend list). he did not pursue further and did not sms me. it was when he met bee when so he asked about me and bee explained the whole story to him. thankfully, that cleared the air cos he thought i had deleted him for whatever reasons. after bee related the incident to me, i logged in into my fb, added him and emailed him about why i had stopped using fb. of cos, he accepted my friend invite but since then, we had stopped corresponding...
(3) couple of days back, in the midst of an sms conversation with a friend, he asked "hey do you have a facebook account? if you have, add me! my email is xxxxxx." and i replied i had and gave the whole story. and he sheepishly replied, "actually, i was too shy to ask if you have deleted me, so i thought maybe it is easier for me to ask if you have an account..." i thought his message was rather funny. and knowing him, he has always been a little shy with friends. so... such a cute person right? adore him to bits! heh heh...
i reflected about these responses from my friends. it was interesting cos it now suggests that such social media have taken over our lives to the point whereby our activities (and inactivity) in the social media could create a certain level of impact on our social circles. scary right? and to make it worst, social media is not exactly the best way to communicate cos it is one of the worst media when it comes to communicating emotions. hmmm...
ps: i told my friend in (3) about this post and he wanted to click "like" just to realize the this is blogger and not facebook. so himbo right? but well, that's him alright. and he's so adorable. i like!
(1) one smsed me - why did you block me from your fb? what did i do to you to deserve such a treatment? why did you stopped me from seeing your photos? it was an unexpected message, and a very interesting one. the message suggested this friend had assumed lots of things. and he had been unfair to me in these assumptions. for example, it suggests that he sees himself to be the center of my fb activities. in asking these questions, he had indirectly implied that i must keep my facebook account alive for him. that i do not have the prerogative to do what i want with my facebook account. also, the questions suggest how he sees himself to be at fault rather than ask if everything is ok with me (given that it is not often that people disappear from facebook). it seemed rather self-centric. could it be that it reflected his own insecurities? anyway, to his message, i simply replied "no la, i did not block you. i deleted everything in it". and a quick reply came - "oh...". and the conversation ended just like that. hmmmm...
(2) a couple of weeks after the incident above, bee was in town and met another friend. he used to be my fb buddy. we used to poke each other (in fb, and yes, it has an extra "b" - for "facebook" buddy and not... heh heh) and comment on each other's statuses. and he was rather curious with my sudden disappearance. his response was to see if i were still in his friend list. and when he checked, he found that i had disappeared (weird cos i did not recall deleting him from my friend list). he did not pursue further and did not sms me. it was when he met bee when so he asked about me and bee explained the whole story to him. thankfully, that cleared the air cos he thought i had deleted him for whatever reasons. after bee related the incident to me, i logged in into my fb, added him and emailed him about why i had stopped using fb. of cos, he accepted my friend invite but since then, we had stopped corresponding...
(3) couple of days back, in the midst of an sms conversation with a friend, he asked "hey do you have a facebook account? if you have, add me! my email is xxxxxx." and i replied i had and gave the whole story. and he sheepishly replied, "actually, i was too shy to ask if you have deleted me, so i thought maybe it is easier for me to ask if you have an account..." i thought his message was rather funny. and knowing him, he has always been a little shy with friends. so... such a cute person right? adore him to bits! heh heh...
i reflected about these responses from my friends. it was interesting cos it now suggests that such social media have taken over our lives to the point whereby our activities (and inactivity) in the social media could create a certain level of impact on our social circles. scary right? and to make it worst, social media is not exactly the best way to communicate cos it is one of the worst media when it comes to communicating emotions. hmmm...
ps: i told my friend in (3) about this post and he wanted to click "like" just to realize the this is blogger and not facebook. so himbo right? but well, that's him alright. and he's so adorable. i like!
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