a weekend where i had to activate lots of contingencies. yup. that is how i'd describe this weekend. but i thought i survived it well. you see, on friday, mum called me to bring her for a hair perm. and i did exactly that yesterday. my sis-in-law, niece and maid came along. mum seemed extra cautious about talking when i drove them to marine parade (where she usually perms her hair). i didn't ask further. i had gotten use to this behaviour of her lately. after lunch at marine parade, i left her to do her hair and asked my sis-in law to bring my niece for a walk by the beach while i went for a tan at the pool. later in the afternoon after the perm, as per routine, i picked them up and sent them home. but when i arrived at my brother's place, my mum refused to get off the car. she insisted on staying at my place. she didn't explain further except that she did not want to go home... and added to that, she didn't want to maid to come along.
hmmm... tricky. knowing that i couldn't coax her to get off the car, i got the maid to pack her stuff, her medication, la la la and drove her back home. halfway home, i had to u-turn when i realized i had forgotten to bring her walking frame. and i had to cancel my evening plans with bee and kwang (thank goodness bee had not book harry porter tickets). bee had to quickly set up her room for her. and after keeping her stuff at home, i tried but failed to arrange for dinner with my second sis. so i decided to bring mum out for dinner with bee... next challenge - where to go considering the place must not be crowded, wheelchair friendly, not too far... i ended up circling bedok and simei. in the end, we had dinner at a coffee shop in the industrial estate.
it was a long and tiring day. after dinner, second sis dropped by. chit chatted till late before i finally put mum to bed. another issue - had to make sure she take her bath safely, change into her diapers before putting her to sleep... thankfully, she was able to self manage. i only need to stand by at the door in case she needs assistance or in case she falls. and when she finally lied down on the bed, i had to place another big mattress by her bed to cushion her in case she rolled off the bed in the middle of the night. i was totally exhausted by the time she finally retired for the night.
woke up early this morning to check on her. she was already awake but simply lied in her bed. i had told her not to move around in case she falls. in any case, she was wearing diapers. made her a cup of milo before letting her clean herself. bee and i brought her out for breakfast and to do some marketing. she was pretty cheerful and i guessed this was so as she had not been out of the house for the longest time. also, she told me she slept till 6am - something that she had not done for quite a while as she was afraid people would harm her at home (my bro's place).
spoke with her at home after breakfast and managed to convince her to head back to my bro's place as i will not be able to take care of her as i have to work on weekdays. thankfully, she agreed. and so, after bringing her out for lunch, we made our way back to my bro's place. it was certainly an unexpected weekend. it was one surprise after another. but i supposed it is to be expected given the presence of an elderly at home. admittedly, i almost get angry a couple of times when my mum insisted people at home were trying to kill her. she was so convinced her dream was real and she was truly afraid to go home. time and again, i had to remind myself to be patient. she is after all, elderly and her mind is not exactly healthy. i held my temper. i am glad it turned out pretty well. and i am glad it is over.
for now.
:-)
ps: and oh, i forgot to bring her walking frame back and had to drive home to get it. and yes, finally, we caught harry porter at the cinema this evening.
hmmm... tricky. knowing that i couldn't coax her to get off the car, i got the maid to pack her stuff, her medication, la la la and drove her back home. halfway home, i had to u-turn when i realized i had forgotten to bring her walking frame. and i had to cancel my evening plans with bee and kwang (thank goodness bee had not book harry porter tickets). bee had to quickly set up her room for her. and after keeping her stuff at home, i tried but failed to arrange for dinner with my second sis. so i decided to bring mum out for dinner with bee... next challenge - where to go considering the place must not be crowded, wheelchair friendly, not too far... i ended up circling bedok and simei. in the end, we had dinner at a coffee shop in the industrial estate.
it was a long and tiring day. after dinner, second sis dropped by. chit chatted till late before i finally put mum to bed. another issue - had to make sure she take her bath safely, change into her diapers before putting her to sleep... thankfully, she was able to self manage. i only need to stand by at the door in case she needs assistance or in case she falls. and when she finally lied down on the bed, i had to place another big mattress by her bed to cushion her in case she rolled off the bed in the middle of the night. i was totally exhausted by the time she finally retired for the night.
woke up early this morning to check on her. she was already awake but simply lied in her bed. i had told her not to move around in case she falls. in any case, she was wearing diapers. made her a cup of milo before letting her clean herself. bee and i brought her out for breakfast and to do some marketing. she was pretty cheerful and i guessed this was so as she had not been out of the house for the longest time. also, she told me she slept till 6am - something that she had not done for quite a while as she was afraid people would harm her at home (my bro's place).
spoke with her at home after breakfast and managed to convince her to head back to my bro's place as i will not be able to take care of her as i have to work on weekdays. thankfully, she agreed. and so, after bringing her out for lunch, we made our way back to my bro's place. it was certainly an unexpected weekend. it was one surprise after another. but i supposed it is to be expected given the presence of an elderly at home. admittedly, i almost get angry a couple of times when my mum insisted people at home were trying to kill her. she was so convinced her dream was real and she was truly afraid to go home. time and again, i had to remind myself to be patient. she is after all, elderly and her mind is not exactly healthy. i held my temper. i am glad it turned out pretty well. and i am glad it is over.
for now.
:-)
ps: and oh, i forgot to bring her walking frame back and had to drive home to get it. and yes, finally, we caught harry porter at the cinema this evening.
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