bee wanted to handle the cremation arrangements but i told him to let my sis-in-law oversee it. sapphie died at their place after all, and it would be much easier for the undertaker to liaise with the owner of the place. but he managed to attend the cremation. i was a little worried about how things would pan out when he meets my brother and sis-in-law as my brother had all the while been rather anti-him, after hearing all the negative things about him from my mum (which was untrue and a result of her dementia when she was alive).
anyway, he arrived early and the pet undertakers had prepared her for the cremation. they had brought out the body from the fridge and allowed it to thaw. she was laid on a metal table and covered with a while piece of cloth. the undertakers passed him some flower to place on sapphie before the cremation and allowed him some private time with her. soon enough my brother and sis-in-law arrived. i understood that they spoke with bee and my brother spoke at length to the dead dog, go and find gong gong and mama (my parents), he urged. that was typically how my brother manage his grieve, he did the same for my dad and my mum, talking to them like as though they were still alive and (in my perspective) make himself and the people around him more sad. but that worked for him.
at 10am, the body was pushed in for the cremation proper. my brother played the buddhist sutra as the body was pushed in and she was finally cremated. it was a dignified process, i must say. and from afar, i was consoled by the way the cremation was managed. she's had a long good life. the undertaker mentioned that for her breed (mongrel), the usual lifespan was about 12 years. for her, she was 15 years, 4 months and 19 days when she passed away.
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