for my second reflection, it is about another friend. and he cannot let go of his past.
the thing about our past is this - it can either energize us or it can haunt us. but when things come to an end, move on. regardless of whatever good, bad, happiness, hurt or whatever, they all belong to the past. move on. let go. we should not constantly try to live in the past. neither should we try to forget them. the thing about trying to forget things is that we end up remembering them. and our mind has this habit of romanticising things (even though we do not admit it) when we think about our past.
factually, the person we had loved before is not the same person today although physically, he may seemed so. the law of relativity applies even in this context. nothing stays constant. for now, we need to accept the present, acknowledge the past, learn from it, appreciate the lessons learnt, accept the finale, and look towards the future. and as for the person in our memory, we should put him in a corner of our heart, thank him for the common journey that he had accompanied us through before, and simply, keep him there. nice and warm. by simply accepting and keeping the memory in a nice warm corner of our heart, whatever misforgivings or hurt we have experienced disappears and what remains is a sweet warm glow. well, at times, we may even think back and laugh at ourselves. i know, cos i have been there, and done that.
and i am still doing it... old habits die hard. haha...
but what's important is - let go.
again, i know, for i have done that.
ps: don't yearn for closures... once people decide to move on, they move on. whatever closures you want, only you can close it yourself. not others.
the thing about our past is this - it can either energize us or it can haunt us. but when things come to an end, move on. regardless of whatever good, bad, happiness, hurt or whatever, they all belong to the past. move on. let go. we should not constantly try to live in the past. neither should we try to forget them. the thing about trying to forget things is that we end up remembering them. and our mind has this habit of romanticising things (even though we do not admit it) when we think about our past.
factually, the person we had loved before is not the same person today although physically, he may seemed so. the law of relativity applies even in this context. nothing stays constant. for now, we need to accept the present, acknowledge the past, learn from it, appreciate the lessons learnt, accept the finale, and look towards the future. and as for the person in our memory, we should put him in a corner of our heart, thank him for the common journey that he had accompanied us through before, and simply, keep him there. nice and warm. by simply accepting and keeping the memory in a nice warm corner of our heart, whatever misforgivings or hurt we have experienced disappears and what remains is a sweet warm glow. well, at times, we may even think back and laugh at ourselves. i know, cos i have been there, and done that.
and i am still doing it... old habits die hard. haha...
but what's important is - let go.
again, i know, for i have done that.
ps: don't yearn for closures... once people decide to move on, they move on. whatever closures you want, only you can close it yourself. not others.
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