moving on

many of my friends told me i should not talk about james in front of bee. and that i am being unfair to bee if i do it. on the contrary, i think it is most important to be open about our thoughts, even if it is about our exs. but of cos, as pony always advise, when talking about exs - be open, but importantly, also be sensitive, and objective. i for one believe that such openness builds trust and prevents unnecessary tensions.

also many of my friends told me i should forget james altogether. hmmmm.... how to? how to forget about someone whom i had spent 1/6 of my life with? someone whom i had given my all to, both emotionally and physically? not possible. if anyone can tell me he can totally forget, i think he had probably not loved. and if he still claim he had, i will then call him a hypocrite. the irony of life is that when one tries to forget, one remembers. i personally would prefer to keep my past in a nice and warm corner of my heart. remember the good times, treasure the memories, learn from the not so good incidents and try not to get into similar situations.

move on. moving on does not mean forgetting. moving on does not mean not talking about it. moving on means accepting it is over and not letting it consume you.