losing oneself

i have just navigated my friends list in facebook and decide to write something here. you see, as i scan the list, i do see individuals who have totally lost themselves - their identity, their sense of self, and worst, sense of self-worth - while trying so very hard to please people (be it in terms of currying favours from their bosses or trying to be the person their partner wants them to be).

and i find it very sad.

things may seem well for the first year or two, but with time, the tension will invariably increase and your inner self will revolt! that is when tensions and quarrels happen. and i am speaking this from experience. in any relationships, it is important to adapt and to give in, but do not ever mistaken adapting and giving in to losing yourself.

if your partner wants you to think and do like him, ask him to marry himself.