pirates of the carribean: salazar's revenge

watched this show last night and totally loved it. it is a prequel and put into perspective how the different characters came about and their relationships. and i enjoyed thoroughly the build up towards the end of the show and how everything came together. very nice! very entertaining! and yes, i can say this is one of my favourite in the whole series of pirates of the carribean shows.

applying indian visa

i will be heading to hyderabad to attend an ex-coleague's wedding next weekend and the visa application process was such a huge pain. apart from the so many questions that i felt did not make too much sense (e.g. obvious birthmarks), i also felt superbly offended by the fact that i had to give details about my late-parents. what is your father's name, what is your father's nationality, what is your father's..., and then i had to repeat for my mother. i thought that was superbly insensitive and totally uncalled for.

new passport

made and collected my new passport two days back. efficient process and i didn't get to wait long.

:-)

sister act

caught the musical "sister act" thursday at the marina bay sands mastercard theatres with a few of my friends.

would have been perfect if not for the less than ideal sound system. i had expected the musical to be similar to the movie and had looked forward to the song "i will follow him". this was, after all, the signature song of the "sister act" movie. but it wasn't there. i supposed it was due copyright issues. nonetheless, i enjoyed the performance.

and above all, nothing beats having a sumptuous afternoon high tea and a great evening of entertainment on a weekday.

:-)

picture from https://www.aspirantsg.com/

lost & found

i lost my work mobile three days ago and managed to get it back a day later. thankful that the guy that found the mobile was honest enough to meet up with me to pass it back to me.

:-)

townhalls

i had to support and make presentations to quite a few town halls lately. it was rather stressful for the fact that all the town halls seemed to come together at about the same time. 

this development was an interesting and enlightening one for me as i came to learn that my predecessor had never done such presentations before. i also learned that my predecessor didn't have good relationships with the businesses and this affected my team's morale and effectiveness. the lack of guidance and leadership also saw my staff being made to take blames unfairly when things went wrong. i was thankful that the businesses were open to me and we ended up having a very good working relationship. this saw a direct increase the collaboration between my team and the businesses which in turn resulted in enhanced morale amongst my team.

feels good that these are energising my team really well.

you're beautiful

this is a beautiful song. but i cannot help but feel the mtv depicted the character committing suicide at the end of the clip. just look at all the signs of a suicidal person - letting go of things, arranging things neatly, saying words that suggest this is the end, etc... what do you think?

you're beautiful
james blunt

my life is brilliant.

my life is brilliant.
my love is pure.
i saw an angel.
of that i'm sure.
she smiled at me on the subway.
she was with another man.
but i won't lose no sleep on that,
'cause i've got a plan.

you're beautiful. you're beautiful.
you're beautiful, it's true.
i saw your face in a crowded place,
and i don't know what to do,
'cause i'll never be with you.

yes, she caught my eye,
as we walked on by.
she could see from my face that i was,
flying (fucking) high.
and i don't think that i'll see her again,
but we shared a moment that will last 'til the end.

you're beautiful. you're beautiful.
you're beautiful, it's true.
i saw your face in a crowded place,
and i don't know what to do,
'cause i'll never be with you.

you're beautiful. you're beautiful.
you're beautiful, it's true.
there must be an angel with a smile on her face,
when she thought up that i should be with you.
but it's time to face the truth,
i will never be with you.

here without you

if there's one song that reminds me of the days in florida, it would be this song. whenever i listen to this, i will be transported back to tampa bay, the times i ran along the bay side, the smells, the sights, the feeling of missing home...

here without you
3 door down

a hundred days have made me older
since the last time that I saw your pretty face
a thousand lies have made me colder
and I don't think I can look at this the same

but all the miles that separate
disappear now when I'm dreaming of your face

i'm here without you, baby
but you're still on my lonely mind
i think about you, baby
and i dream about you all the time
i'm here without you, baby

but you're still with me in my dreams
and tonight it's only you and me, yeah.

the miles just keep rollin'
as the people leave their way to say hello
i've heard this life is overrated
but i hope that it gets better as we go, oh, yeah, yeah

i'm here without you, baby
but you're still on my lonely mind
i think about you, baby
and i dream about you all the time
i'm here without you, baby

but you're still with me in my dreams
and tonight, girl, its only you and me

everything i know, and anywhere i go (oh whoa)
it gets hard but it won't take away my love (oh whoa)
and when the last one falls
when it's all said and done
it gets hard but it wont take away my love, whoa, oh, oh

i'm here without you, baby
but you're still on my lonely mind
i think about you, baby
and i dream about you all the time
i'm here without you, baby

but you're still with me in my dreams
and tonight, girl, it's only you and me

alien: covenant

this show is a prequel to earlier alien shows. and as expected, it didn't deviate too far from what we already know of alien films - the kinda "i walked in knowing what to expect, and i walked out knowing i had watched what i had expected to watch" kinda feeling. but i did enjoy it as it gave me a view of how future space explorations would look like and the discoveries of new planetary systems. these are interesting scenarios, albeit one that is a little bleak given that it projects man's failure to save planet earth and thus have to resort to seeking alternatives in order to survive.

interesting politics

it's really interesting to read about the events happening in the white house. constantly surprised by the president's actions. creating havoc all round. since he ascended the throne, his domestic policies seemed to be getting everywhere but nowhere and he is making every one crazy. and on the other hand, his foreign policies seemed more mainstream than what he said he would do during his campaign... all these must be real tough for the people around him. wonder how long more they can keep up with him. feels just like a reality show. only that this time it is happening in the white house.

and with due respect, i seriously think americans deserve better.

vesak day 2017

this year's vesak day came and went. went for the usual 3-step-1-bow at the bright hill temple on vesak day eve and waited till almost 2am before the ceremony started. completed the whole ritual and got home about 5.30am. totally tired out. and for the first time since 2005, bee didn't join in. he had a bad back and couldn't be there. so... yeah, in the end it was just me and a couple of other friends. also made a trip to the sri lankan buddhist temple later in the day and had the chance to witness the retiring of the buddha relic from the temple's main hall to the monks residence. had not seen this done before and it was really an eye opener. the thing about me is that i always get a little awed and choke when i attend such ceremonies. it was the same years ago and it was the same yesterday. 

:-)

annual obligations

visited the temple last week to pay respects to the taoist deity (that my mum had prayed to). the birthday of the resident deity will be celebrated next month and they have started the month-long celebrations. i also need to fulfil my responsibilities as a "god-son" by making donations to the temple and renew my "adoption" status.

:-)

asian civilisation museum

i never fail to learn new things when i visit the museum. also, the constant renewal of the exhibits to focus on different aspects of asia is very refreshing. and this time round, there focus is on korea. 

very interesting.

月亮代表"ah ma"的心

i was at the market this morning for my breakfast and there was this guy basking there. he was playing the organ and singing some very popular songs from the 80s era. after a couple of songs, he was joined by a 30-something year old lady. i supposed the lady was his friend for they paired off very well. their singing was competent, not fantastic. i kinda enjoyed their selection of songs and i believed many did too, judging by the fact that many were singing along as they ate their breakfast. 

and as i ate, a familiar tune came on. it was teresa teng's "月亮代表我的心" (the moon represents my heart). this was an all time favourite of many and i sensed everyone's approval. by this time, everyone was familiar with the lady's voice as she started the song. then, after the first sentence, another lady's voice came on. this voice was different. it sounded rough with age and everyone turned to take a look. in place of the young lady was this 80-over year-old white haired petite sized lady. and wow, despite her age, she sang very well! 

ah ma put in all her heart as she sang. she closed her eyes and moved her hands as she belted the love song. and when she sang out the words "moon" she raised her hands and looked up, as though she was pointing to the moon... by this time, a crowd had built up. and everyone stood around, mesmerised by this old ah ma. she sang very well and hit every note accurately. and when she ended the song, everyone broke into a huge applause. ah ma smiled shyly, waved and thank everyone for their applause and limped towards her husband (presumably), who had been standing by the side quietly. and she held onto his hand and they walked away quietly. 

i could imagine ah ma dedicating that song to her husband.

it was an amazing sight.

:-)

dildos... & toys

just felt like making this very spontaneous post about

dildos & toys

they do come in all shapes and sizes don't they? 

and in all the different colours and hues too...

:-)

picture from http://blog.sheboptheshop.com/tag/dildos/ & http://www.male-hq.com/

sleep sleep sleep

i slept through most of the day today! 

i just didn't have the energy to want to get up. came back late from dinner at karen's place, woke up at 7.45am, went for breakfast with bee... usual morning routines, and then i simply knocked out from 10-ish till almost 3pm. went for a quick meal (don't even know if it was lunch or tea), came back and continued sleeping till now...

i felt soo exhausted. it must have been the very packed week.

cooking nonya chap chye

i cooked nonya chap chye for my friends last evening. that was the first time i cooked anything "big" since mum passed on in nov 2015. and since i am currently observing a vegetarian diet, i had to rely on the gang to do the taste test...

was glad everyone enjoyed it, nonetheless.

:-)

vegetarianism

i have observed a vegetarian diet for almost 2 weeks. this is an annual routine i've observed for many years. i'd start my vegetarian diet on the first day of the 4th lunar month and stop after vesak day. i recalled the first year when i did it, the 15 days seemed to last forever. i'd yearn for meat and i'd find a lot of difficulties looking for vegetarian eating places.

but these days, the 15 days seemed to pass very quickly. i supposed its partly because vegetarian eating places are quite easily found. also, i have gotten used to it and thus do not find difficulties switching to a vegetarian lifestyle. but vegetarian food are not necessarily more healthy, especially chinese vegetarian food as many are made from gluten. but yeah, all things being equal, i do make a more conscious effort to control what i eat. and this helped me better manage my weight. 

:-)

a dog's purpose

watched this over the tv last evening at karen's place. was warned that it was a tear jerker and that people who had/ has dogs as pets would break down several times during the show. but hmmm, perhaps its due to this warning that created too high an expectations. i didn't cry at all.

"a dog's purpose" was a story told through the eyes of a dog who was reincarnated several times and reunited with his owner (several lives back). touching at times, i must say. but from another perspective, funny. funny in a warped sense. how the hell does a dog reincarnate into another dog? how does the memory of one life stay on to another, etc. heh... i supposed i'm just too logical a person.

then again, the show in itself was interesting for the fact that it centred around the concept of reincarnation, a concept that is not accepted in the christian faith (i am of course making the general assumption that christianity is the most common religion in the western world)...

ok, i think too much...

post-note: i checked the net for some background of this show and learnt of allegations of animal abuse when they produced this show. a clip showing how a dog was forced into a pool was shown. my immediate thoughts when i watched the video was that there was no abuse per se. i supposed there was a very fine line between coaxing and abusing. then again, shan't go into this debate.

guardians of the galaxy vol 2

this was such an entertaining show. and its interesting for the fact that the story borders between science fiction and religion. but well, what worked for me for this movie was the fact that (1) there were a lot of songs from the 80s, (2) the crude, into-your-face, conversations, that touches your heart at times, (3) the strong acting, (4) the good looking casts, and of cos, the omg cuteness of groot!

enjoyed it lots!

no hk trip

this monday is labour day and thus, it's a long weekend. had planned to visit hong kong... made the decision sometime a couple of weeks back and had primed some of my hong kong friends about it. was looking forward to catch up with them. but it was not to be. checked the hotel prices and turned out that due to a major event being held there, the hotel price had tripled. and for a low-mid range hotel room, i had to pay some sgd400 per night.

this is too crazy. decided to give this trip a miss altogether. 

13th year

commemorated our 12th anniversary on 28 apr.

been 12 years already... (and for some unknown reasons, i kept thinking it had been more than 13 years..,)

gosh!

no penang trip

was supposed to head to penang with my ex-colleagues & bee over the last weekend to celebrate the birthday of one of them. we had planned for this trip for months. and after all the preparations, packing, etc.... it didn't happen. we didn't go in the end.

that morning itself, i got a call from bee. his mum couldn't breathe and had to be evacuated to the a&e. turned out - she had an anxiety attack. admittedly, i was angry. angry with how things turned out. it was a huge disappointment for me. i had looked forward to this trip so very much. it would be a good break for me after all the stress at work. and from the look of things, it looked like we will not be having any holiday soon. its vary frustrating cos for the longest time ever, i've tried to get him to go for a holiday with me. and every time it's a case of he cannot leave because of his work. and this time round, after months of planning, we finally managed to go for a weekend trip to penang and...

well, the penang trip did not happen.

wasted close to sgd900...

crazy work

work has been crazy...

reeeeeeally crazy. and to make things worst, i've got a highly dysfunctional team that comprise people who are not co-operative, people who are disillusioned, people who are so full of themselves, people who are so nonchalant, etc.... 

very challenging.

slipped disc

the doctor confirmed that i have slipped disk. but for now, theres no requirement to undergo any operations, he said, unless i wanted to. not a good sign. and with time, this can only get worst. 

haiz.

pop aye

caught this movie over the last weekend. it was an interesting show about the adventures of a man and his elephant. and if you were to look deeper into the story, it has a very strong buddhist slant, in my opinion. to me, this show is about life, about letting go, about self-discovery.

thoroughly enjoyed it.

cancer check

had a medical exam done and the doctor scheduled me for a colonoscopy. accordingly, this is advocated for men above 50 to detect possibility of colon cancer. the initial consultation to confirm i'm fit to undergo colonoscopy will be in jul 2017...

smurfs: the lost village

i had second thoughts before watching this. people around me, including bee, gave me the wet blanket and expressed things like - huh? smurfs? - when i asked if they wanted to watch it. so... yeah, you kinda guessed it. i went to watch the show alone. the cinema was near empty (i think i was one of the 2 or 3 people in the hall), but i didn't regret. i enjoyed the show. for the first time, the show gave depth to the background of how smurfette came about. and it was interesting cos after so many years, i never knew about this story. so... it came across as refreshing, and i actually liked it.

:-)

ah ma's red car

i had a very meaningful experience this afternoon. for that matter, i felt a little overwhelmed by how an old and frail elderly couple kept to each other, almost inseparable, and how the ah gong tried his best to seek medical help for ah ma. here's what happened.

i was at marine terrace earlier for my afternoon coffee. as i walked towards the coffee shop, i saw an elderly couple. they were probably in their mid-late 80s. both looked a little roundish, but frail. ah ma was on a wheelchair and ah gong stood at the back, hands on handles. they were at the linkway between two blocks and were hidden from the car park. as i walked towards them, they both smiled at me, the kind of gentle smile that we can only see in elderlies. and ah ma raised her hand slowly and called out to me in very soft voice - did u see a red car? the question came out of no where and i didn't understand what she meant. i walked towards her and moved my head down to her ears and asked - what red car? and she repeated softly red car as she looked at me, a little bewildered. i looked up at ah gong and he said - the red car that comes when we call 995.

my mind started racing. 995 is the number for medical emergencies in singapore. something must be wrong, i thought. i walked quickly out to the car park to see if there was an ambulance. the car park hidden away from the main road and where the couple stood was not visible from the car park. i walked back to the elderly couple. no, there wasn't an ambulance, i said. both of them looked worried but kept their half smiles. i told them to wait a while and i went to check again. i walked around the car park but there was just no ambulance in sight. when i got back, they had apparently gotten worried for they had also asked a few other passerby if they had seen a "red car". a few ignored them and walked off. i asked the ah gong if he recalled where he had directed the ambulance to. thankfully, he remembered and said "block 58". i walked out and looked up the block for the block number. it was block 59. oops...

i got worried for them and told them to wait while i walked out to the car park to check again. and to be sure there was indeed a call registered, i called 995. i spoke to the operator and explained the situation to him. thankfully they had their records and the operator told me their ambulance should be there within 5min. to be sure they get to the right location, the operator requested for me to help guide the ambulance when it arrives. i walked back to inform the elderly couple and they heaved a sigh of relief. i walked back to the car park and kept a look out as i kept visual contact with ah gong. when i saw the ambulance enter the car park, i waved at it frantically and managed to guide it to where i was. at the same time, i signalled for ah gong to push the wheel chair out. he had some difficulties  and i ran to him to assist. the whole feeling of pushing the wheelchair certainly felt so familiar. i had done the same for my own mum way too often back then. the memories just flashed by. 

the ambulance stopped and then we came faced with another issue. the ambulance attendants were all malay and the elderly couple spoke only mandarin. naturally, i became the translator. what happened? did you fall, did you experience chest pains, did you have high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes, heart issues, medical history, etc etc etc. and after taking down the notes, they said they needed to transfer ah ma onto the collapsible bed. no i cannot, said ah ma. my legs are painful. i cannot stand. no, no, i cannot stand. she said as she grabbed the handle of her wheelchair tightly. her words all sounded way too familiar to me. my own mum had said the same thing back then. instinctively, i turned to her and calmly explain to her that the attendants will help her. she looked at me, understood me and let go of her hands. she looked at me again and she tried to stand up, amidst some pains. the attendants came together like a drill and held onto her diapers, waist and her shoulder and eventually managed to place her onto the collapsible bed. all these while, ah gong stood and looked on. and then came another issue. 

uncle, you cannot bring the wheelchair along, the attendant said. you need to bring it home and we will wait for you here. it took a while for ah gong to understand. and ah ma was obviously getting very worried. where is he going, where am i going. will i be going alone... she asked as she kept straining her head forward to catch sight of ah gong. seeing her in this state, i quickly reach out to her, held her hand and explained to her slowly about the wheelchair. as i spoke with her, i looked into her eyes and noted the blur cloudy eyes so commonly seen amongst elderlies. ah ma, don't worry ok, ah gong is going to put the wheelchair home and he will come down and accompany you to the hospital. i had to repeat it a few times before she understood. after i calmed her down, i walked quickly up to the ah gong who had started to walk home as he gingerly pushed the wheelchair. ah gong himself looked so frail. it was heartbreaking. i walked alongside and assured him all's well and that ah ma will be in good hands. and as i spoke to him, he suddenly turned to me, and held my hands with both hands, looked me into my eyes and asked in chinese what's your surname (in chinese, we don't ask for names, we ask for surname). i want to thank you...

it was really very touching. 

love, in dollars and cents

i noted a very interesting conversation between a father and a daughter that sat beside me during lunch.

the daughter said something about her mum rejecting her offer to buy the family dinner once a week and to foot the car parking charges for the family car when she drives. the father smiled and in response, casually asked if she's gonna cover the petrol and whether she's also gonna get a cash card for her own use (for car parking)... the daughter's stared at the father and very quickly told the dad that he's pushing a bit too far. she added that if that's the case, she'd seriously reconsider buying dinner after all. she finished off by saying that the dinner would likely cost more that the petrol and the cash card, lalala...

i stopped listening at that point as my mind starting reflecting on this whole conversation. there were so many layers in this conversation that made me feel disturbed...

firstly, it was the transactional nature of this conversation. offering to contribute back to the family was so much simpler when i was younger. supporting me was something done without questions as what all parents would do and returning back was an act of gratitude that was done from the heart. it wasn't so transactional. it was just a case of me offering a certain amount of money to my mum from my pay to help with household expenses. no questions asked, no negotiation.

secondly, i pondered about the values inculcation journey of this young lady. in another words, did the parents actually bring her up well? we have here a young lady who went to the point to consider taking away a dinner because her dad suggested she also cover the petrol... i've never dared talk to my parents in such manner and tones. i deemed such responses disrespectful.

lastly, i asked if we, as a society, have reached a point where we become so materialistic - so much so that we have to be so calculative and go to this detail in accounting for expenses. and to stretch this thought further, have we inadvertently commoditised (to a small extend) the whole idea of relationship?

ok, i think too much. maybe the long and short of this was simply - a generation gap.

it's nice to just sit down and write.

:-)

stress-induced dream

i think it was because of my work stress that i ended up having this interesting and very intense dream last night. and i can kinda guess what this dream meant broadly. you see, out of the so many briefings i had to do and prepare, i was especially stressed out over a particular briefing. nonetheless, i was kinda cool about it and didn't too much a damned over the slides despite knowing it was something i should work on. my cool care-less attitude towards this particular briefing was because after i prepared the draft and presented to my department lead (as she had to lead this brief to a particular member of my top management), she kinda tore it apart yet couldn't really give any clear directions. and i sensed that even my department lead was trying to second guess what to present. and this was becos this top management person i'm supposed to brief is "unbriefable". almost everyone else i'd met thus far shared that regardless of how hard work i worked and what i prepare, i will still be torn apart by this particular top management person. apparently, she simply likes to scold people and make snide remarks just so she could tear people to pieces. and after hearing all these inputs, i started adopting this - "prepare also get killed, don't prepare also get killed, might as well just go in and get killed" - attitude. and i did so cos i wanted to channel my energies to the other briefings that i had to prepare too. i concluded it would be more productive this way... regardless, i was constantly irked and reminded at the back of my head that i have this lingering brief that i had not done enough of... anyway, here's my intense dream:

for some reasons i was in an old lorry (truck, to some), the type that was used often back in the 60's-70s, and it was driven by a tv actor (cannot recall his name, but this person is a small time local tv personality). he was driving the lorry through some rough terrain and i was a passenger in the lorry passenger seat. there was another person beside me - i don't know who but i can only say this was a familiar person as i knew his voice. we were heading home and the landscape was that of my grandparent's village back in the 60s-70s. 

we were on the dirt road when suddenly the driver took a detour and drove "cross-country". he started cutting through the grass patches, the metal yards (that had waste metal strewn all over), as he picked up speed. the voice beside me started screaming for the driver to slow down and demanded to know why he went off track and took a different road instead. the voice started sounding fearful and angry. as for me, i took it in stride. i knew the driver knew the road and his way around the area. i was confident he was taking a short cut as the route he took seemed familiar to me. 

as we picked up speed, the lorry began to rattle and bounced rather hard. we were after all, travelling cross-country and the grounds were highly uneven. soon, a river emerge and the lorry drove alongside the river. i recognised this river. it was located behind my grand parent's village. i looked into the water and there were many animals. the animals were all motionless and seemed to be frozen in time. amongst the animals was a white dog. it sat motionless with a pleasant looking smily face. it was submerged in the water and stared blankly into no where.

suddenly, the driver drove the lorry into the river. at such a high speed, the lorry crashed into and break the water surface and created quite a huge splash. it moved on towards the opposite bank. but before it could reach the bank, the lorry died. we were all submerged in the water and started sinking. at the moment, everything seemed to disappear and i was simply focused onto the dog. it was obviously dead and seemed to be frozen in time in the water. i reached out to it but it didn't move. it reminded me of sapphie although it wasn't. and next thing i knew, another dog appeared. it appeared to be struggling and swimming towards the bank. i reached out to it and it happily allowed me to embrace it as i carried it in my arms and walk towards the bank.

the dream ended there.

stressed

i've been so caught up with work so much these 2 weeks.

and it is all because this week alone, i have to attend/ prepare/ conduct 6-7 briefings to different members of my company's top management. and along the way, shit happened, my staff had to go on compassionate leave and i had to cover him, two of my staff went on scheduled leave and i had to cover them as well, and my boss-2-levels-up decided to do an impromptu activity in a workshop that required my immediate attention to develop the activity, prepare slides, develop materials, work out the logistics, draft the instructions, and... yeah, you kinda get the drift.

anyway, things have panned out rather ok so far. and without going into details, things kinda fell into place slowly. people helped, circumstances changed, meetings got postponed, new meetings were convened where people gave their inputs/ support, etc... i am almost through with this week. one more day and one more major event and i should be done for the week.

whew...

:-)

april fool's day

i was rather mad with one of my ex-colleague who texted the group (that i am quite close to) expressing shock about her "pregnancy". of cos a few of us got worried as we had been cautioning her about her new relationship with this australian  man (whom she had just gotten to know)... 

and as the title had already indicated, it turned out to be an april fool's joke. seriously, one should never play such jokes on people who truly care for you. it is nothing short of cruel. and it wears down the trust people have in you. 

seriously...

power rangers

have never been a power ranger fan. but still i decided i should watch this show and yeah, i enjoyed it tremendously. i supposed it was the whole escape from the current reality that this show provided me with. had been stressed by lotsa stuff lately. that would be another story altogether. anyway, this show didn't steer too far away from what i knew of power rangers - there are several of them and one of them turned bad and they (the good ones) had to go into battle with it (can be him or her, depending on which series...).

should watch it if you have not.

self-interest

when it comes to people, the only thing that is constant in this whole world is - self-interest.

i had this little debate with my friends earlier and i made this point just to tickle their thinking process. so far, none of them can proof me otherwise. my argument is that in everything that a person does, the motivation can always be traced to his/ her own self-interest. do you agree? another area that i tried to tease their thinking include - "you cannot survive on hope. there is a fine line between hope and delusion"... agree?

i am such a ,u@#r0*&%^w4re*%^....

lol!

心猿意馬

i was reading a forum for gay men this morning when i noted a topic about "actors you wanna have fun with" or something along this line. looked inside and someone gushed about the gay sex scene in this movie. i thought it was interesting for a fact that many of the actors in the show are rather famous. in no time, i was hooked onto it. it was an old hong kong production, probably in the early 2000s.

the title "心猿意马" can be roughly translated as: "a heart like a capering monkey and a mind like a galloping horse -- restless; be prone to outside attractions; fanciful and fickle; harbor monkey-feelings and horse-thoughts; in a restless and jumpy mood; one's heart is agile as an ape and one's thoughts swift as a horse.; one who can't settle down to his job; perturbed; the heart of an ape and the mind of a horse; with one's mind running wild; when one meant gibbon, he thinks of a horse -- wavering in purpose.; restless and whimsical; unsettled [fickle] in mind"... you get the idea.

the show depicted 3 parallel stories involving a cat-3 actress, a straight couple, a gay pick up, and a pilot and spans the duration of one night. quite a bit of flesh, but sex scenes aside, i thought the show really brought across the whole idea of fleeting desires - how couples and individuals handle love and lust, and how they lie to each other even as they play outside the relationship. and what i liked about the show was that it touched on both gay and straight relationships. 

do watch it, and make sure you watch the full show till the last couple of minutes to fully appreciate the fleeting nature of desires.

translation from http://eng.ichacha.net/心猿意马.html 

4d

i walked pass the singapore pools shop yesterday and decided to buy 4d. 4d is the singapore version of public lottery and there are 3 draw days per week. the purchase was just that spontaneous and despite the objective side of me saying i would probably end up throwing my money away, i decided to just take a chance out of fun and just proceed to buy. heh heh...

let's see my luck for today and this coming wednesday.

loneliness

these days after mum left, i find myself often feeling lonely often. i would wake up on weekends, lie in bed or on the sofa and just refused to get up. there are just no motivation to get up and go out of the house. and even if i managed to drag myself out of the house, i do often end up moving from point a to point b rather aimlessly. perhaps i am lazy, but there is really no one that i want to spend time with (it's just too much effort), etc... as for bee, i really hope he can be around but i have come to the point where i told myself i cannot have any expectations. he has his preoccupations - his mum, his work, etc. and even if he has time, i think he prefers to laze in his own place.

hmmm... and it is times like these that i pondered if there was some wisdom in mum's constant nagging - "you must get married and have children, else when you are old, there'll not be anyone to look after you..." of cos, i know these are not possible if it is read from a straight perspective. but yeah... just cannot but think about her words.

anyway, here i am, having just finished my forest hike and sitting in a coffee shop drinking my afternoon coffee. i am simply wilding my time away, resting and at the same time aimlessly reading the malay signs that scroll endlessly in front of me - nasi goreng ikan masin, nasi goreng ikan bilis, kangkung belachan, mee rebus, mee soto, mee siam, mee bandung, mee hong kong, mee hailam, mee goreng thai...

:-)

backache

i suffer from chronic backache and would experience back sprains almost every 2 years. the last major attack i had was last jul. it occurred early in the morning when i went for my morning walks where i felt a slight click on my lower back when i tried to bend down to pick something from the floor. it quickly developed into a bad back and it got worst with time. at its peak, i couldn't stand nor sit properly and had to hold onto things to stabilise myself. thankfully, that superbly painful period was over. but the lingering pain persisted till today. 

i had managed this pain by doing my regular walks and going for my chiropractic treatments. unlike previous occasions where the back would recover after a week or two, the pain continued this time round. it got me worried enough to seek professional help. the specialist i saw 2 months back suspected it could be due to an annular tear but needed to put me through an x-ray and an mri before he can be sure if it was the case. he also referred me to the physiotherapist to help strengthen my back.

the physiotherapist saw me last month. and he assessed that it was due to weak muscles instead of an annular tear given that the pain had subsided quite a bit. and he also taught me some basic exercises to strengthen my back. i went for the x-ray and the mri scan this morning and will be seeing the doctor next week. let's see what he says...

:-)

john

i first met john at the pool many years back when i was still serving the force. it must have been about 10 years? there's something very different about him that made me remember him - he has a beard. not very common for a chinese. after seeing him a couple of times at the pool, i didn't get to see him again as i stopped going to the pool eventually. i forgot about him altogether after that.

fast forward to about two years ago, i chanced upon him at katong pool again. and since then, i had seen him quite frequently. each time i see him, he would give me that "you look familiar" kinda look. and each time we meet, i would smile at him and he would reciprocate. and all these while, i didn't have the chance to talk to him as we were a distance away. moreover, i am not one to approach people. but last week, things changed. it was during my off day when i decided to head to the pool for a tan. 

i had just changed up after my shower when he walked into the toilet. his entrance took me by surprise. as usual, i smiled at him and he reciprocated. it was then that i thought that perhaps i should just muster my courage and speak to him. and after some initial pleasantries, i asked if he'd like to keep in touch. it had been over a decade and i told myself it was then or never. frankly, i felt really shy doing it and quickly retracted when he paused and showed some hesitance. well, it's ok, thanks, i said and wanted to leave. but after some momentary silence, he agreed and gave it to me. those moments were superbly awkward for me. anyway...

yeah, am glad i've got a new friend. 

:-)

rejecting an applicant

there was an internal staff who applied for a job in my department. she was desperate to find a job as the project she is currently supporting is coming to an end and once that happens, she'll go jobless. and while she was offered another position with another project, she didn't feel good about it as it was a 2-year stint. but as i do not have the necessary position for her, i told the talent acquisition team to reject her. i also thought it was not very nice to simply reject her, and so i asked to meet up with this staff...

in the end, i spend some 90min chatting with her to explain why i didn't accept her application. and went into my career coaching mode and asked her to consider accepting the short term job as she keep her her options open. i even shared with her how to prepare her resume. am glad that she walked out of the conversation feeling energised and raring to go.

glad i could help her see things a little differently.

confirmation

my boss came to my desk yesterday and asked to speak with me in private. got me worried for a moment. it turned out that she wanted to tell me the big boss is happy with me and has signed my confirmation letter, so... don't be surprised when someone come and hand over a confirmation letter to you k? she said.

time flies right?

:-)

"reservist"

i had a weird dream last night.

i dreamed i was called back for reservist and the unit i was posted to was (now get this) my previous employer. and there i was, with my current colleague at the start of the dream but as it went on, i had to walk through a river and suddenly i found myself sitting in my previous office desk working. the vp hr was seated behind me and i didn't give a damn to her presence and continued to do what i needed to do. and in the dream, one other colleague (who had also resigned) was also working in the office. and the next thing i knew, i found myself laid on a bed (of sorts) and trying to change my pants. i was conscious that i was changing in front of my colleagues and felt a little exposed but still i continued changing. i couldn't give a shit about people's presence. 

weird dream... 

kong: the skull island

this was an interesting show and for some reasons or other, i ended up watching it twice over this weekend. heh. anyway, it deviated from the usual traditional "king kong" show where a giant gorilla christened "kong" went to ny city - the famous king kong on empire state building image that we are all so familiar with. perhaps this show has nothing to do with ny city or the empire state building. it was about a giant gorilla that lived on an island somewhere in the pacific, and how man intruded it's peace and attempted to take control of the island (on the pretext of some scientific experiment).  i suspect it had leverage on the name "kong" to get the attention it needed. 

but yeah, i would perhaps interpret the show as one that illustrates, once again, man's insecurities, greed and want to take control over the world. lines such as "he is not the killer, he is just protecting his land... (or something to that effect) puts in perspective the behaviour of this gorilla. the sad thing is that this gorilla is, by sheer laws of nature, doomed as his parents had been killed, and he is but the only giant gorilla left on the island. sad to think of it this way. really. don't you think so...

i missed the closing trailer and from what i read in the internet, it looked like there'll be a sequel to this show - something about kong and godzilla. kinda interesting if i were to take a step back and see things in perspective. end of x-men, start of new avengers movies, start of giant animals and perhaps even a 4-part sequel to avatar in the works...

nice. 

logan

it was a superbly intense movie. the initial scenes felt somewhat depressing, particularly when it showed the main x-men characters so down and broken - an old nonagenarian charles xavier who's incapacitated, a logan that's probably in his 60s and constantly being beaten up, and instead of the shiny futuristics looking hideout, they now live in a shabby-looking farmhouse, not to mentioned, professor xavier being kept in a collapsed water tank. sad right? these scenes are not something we have been used to. but yeah, that was the scenes we get in this movie. and the fights were so gory it reminded me of the movie 300. heads get blown off, hands and legs get chopped off, blood splattering all over the place... ewwww...

but yeah, with the death of wolverine, this show perhaps closes the whole series of x-men movies that had run for the pass decade or so. and who knows, the next series of mutants that's gonna come will make reference to this as the beginning. 

we'll see...

$5.95

i was at the mall checking out places for dinner and as i checked out the menu at yoshinoya, the auntie waitress came up and said: you can get a meal for $5.95 if you're a senior citizen...

i walked away after that. should i feel offended?

lol!

mindfulness

or the lack of it...

seemed to be getting less mindful these days. just minutes ago, i washed my hair with my body foam. and i only realized it when i thought it didn't smell right.

haiz...

girlfriend vs boyfriend

a quick reflection after hearing what a course facilitator said (she who spoke freely about going out with her girlfriend and their experiences)...

when a girl says i went out for dinner with my girlfriend, it sounds less salah (wrong) than when a guy says i went out for dinner with my boyfriend. a guy that says that would have attracted a lot of awkward stares and be subjected to teasing and/ or bullying. at worst, he could even be ostracized by people around him. it boils down to homophobia, social attitudes towards and expectations of different gender, culture...

it's not about whether it is fair or not. it just is.

and on a side note, and similarly related to the above:

amongst gay men, there is a higher tendency to want to stereotype or identify oneself as top, bottom or flex. terms like gurlfriend, sistar, gurls are commonly used to depict the feminine side (although it also commonly reference to the individual's role in bed) amongst gay men. this is in contrast to lesbians who tend to be less hung up over such role-related terms.

resume writing

went through another resume and rewrote it. this time round, it was my niece's resume. she texted me and told me she failed to land any interviews despite sending out her resume to many different companies. so i told her to forward me her resume to take a look. and... yup, rather amateurish.

she did not give a summary of herself and her professional experience came across as trying too hard as she listed a-z of everything she did. i thought it was not necessary and just needed to write something concise yet captures the gist of what she did. the rest could be elaborated during the interview. so, i rewrote the whole resume for her. her's was interesting cos it was the first time i see a resume that listed key achievements by themes instead of employment (career history). i supposed it made sense for her, she's in the legal field...

learned something new.

sword art online - ordinal scale

augmented reality vs virtual reality games... or really? evil plot behind the games... the synopsis went something like that. and i thought it was interesting and booked the tickets for it. it didn't occur to me until after the show that this story was released in 2009 and there was even a 25-episode anime series after that. and to think that this story was written in 2009 suggests that japan is really ahead of time in technology! i wasn't disappointed. despite the slow start, the pace of the show picked up very fast. the toggling between current, augmented and virtual reality didn't confuse me after awhile. 

very nice!