negotiating higher pay

it was something i had wanted to do for a while now. i have always felt i was underpaid. and the market surveys i looked up all suggested so too. but i didn't know how to go about doing it. i didn't know how to open my mouth. and last night, while having drinks with some friends, we spoke about it and lp shared with me how she did it... go straight to the point. ask what they expect of you, then tell them that "hey, this is the market rate. you want me to do all these things, then my efforts need to be justified..."

sounds easy enough.

but really, it is damned difficult...

hmmm...