increasingly, i am feeling this negative energy when working with my new boss. how he can criticise the system and policies and in doing so, make it sound so personal and targeted at us. it gets to me sometimes. even if he didn't mean it, the momentary negativity that came out of his responses to our inputs didn't go well with us. and worst still, at times, he can put us down and make us sound stupid when we try to share some background as to why things are the way they are today. and i can also sense this tensions amongst all my 3 other peers/ fellow managers in the department.
interestingly, amongst the 4 of us, apart from the one that i had a tiff with last month, all the other 3 have been sms-ing/ calling/ sharing amongst ourselves to simply vent, or to just air our tensions during moments when we feel the need to release the negative energies that arise after interacting with him. and i can see all of us being professional enough to move on and get back and focus our energies back to our team after venting and airing our thoughts. but judging by the increased frequency of this sharing lately but i am seriously not sure how long some of us can last.
for me frankly, i am feeling the urge to up my tempo in my job search all over again. and for a quick moment today, i even thought about just throwing my letter even if i do not have a job. but objectively, i know i shouldn't do this. but well... that such a thought crossed my mind kinda reflect how much negativity there are in our dynamics.
Hi Jeffrey,
ReplyDeleteDoes anyone have friends or friendly contacts where he worked before? It might be helpful to gain insights.
Sometimes new bosses will come in "hot" to set a tone or new direction, or to separate the "wheat from the chaff". Is this his normal style (obviously raises the question if he is in the wrong field) or will he settle down into a more productive style (stop playing the no nonsense teacher on the first day of school)?
It is a small world for most industries ;-)
Just a thought before writing it all off (there is a danger of the group magnifying his behavior based on the shoddy way your former Head was treated: he wasn't responsible for that).
Best wishes, Edwin
hey edwin,
ReplyDeletethanks for the reminder about the possible magnification of his behaviour through our sharing.
:-)
jeffrey