it's been getting harder and harder to manage my dad these days. he has bad habits and it is impossible to change them... have tried all sorts of way and it's been futile. and his bad habits get onto people's nerves and often it ended up on my lap for me to answer. for example, he likes to spit out of the balcony, brings the dog out for long walks and unleashes her, he eats ang ku kueh and throws the banana leaf base out of the balcony, he throws pieces of scrap paper out of the kitchen window, and so on and so forth... and then, i would get complains.
to top it off, he'd lie and deny all those things he'd done when i asked. and when i show him proof, he'd swear blind he did not do it... all these despite seeing it with my own eyes.
he also cannot take advices. for example, despite having incessant cough, he continues to drink cold tea, something that all in the family had advised against, at least temporarily till his cough stop, he wouldn't listen. similarly, he would eat and eat without due considerations to his weight. it is not possible to convince him that he should manage his weight. his reasons, has always been that he is diabetic and needs to eat. but soon enough, i realized this is an excuse... how do you explain eating a huge bowl of noodle, claim he is full, then slurped another packet of nasi lemak, then eat bread? all within an hour? and when asked, his reply is - "oh, got food so i eat lor"... and through chinese new year, he'd munch away all the oranges, cookies and bak kwa. not giving a hoot about his cough or the fact that he is diabetic. last month, i bought 600 grams of li kiam (preserved plums) and he finished them all within a week!
he's a medicine lover. has been taking all sorts of medication by himself through his life to the extend that his liver stopped functioning in 2000. he is lucky to be alive today. yet, he did not learn his lesson. he would often utter all sorts of expletives when he goes to the doctor and not get the amount of medicine he expects to get. and he'd sleep through the day and stay up whole night coughing, watching tv, play with the dog, eat and so on. and then he would go to the doctor to complain of insomnia and ask for sleeping pills. and really, i was upset when the doctor concluded that he is suffering from depression and told him that he needs to be referred to psychiatrist without even checking his sleep habits. talking about staying up at night, he would call my brother through the night and chat with him over the phone.
yesterday, i received a letter from the police telling me that there have been silent calls to `999' over the last 2 months and that some of the calls occur as early as 4plus in the morning. not sure how i can manage this and smsed my sis and brother to help. not easy and certainly i don't feel good having to tell him off once a while. decide not to talk to him about it anymore as his mentality now is that i'm trying to restrict him. also, i'll probably explode if i do engage him in any talk at this point in time.
he is 76 year old. an old man. but then again, this has to be managed. and i am really at my wits end now.
to top it off, he'd lie and deny all those things he'd done when i asked. and when i show him proof, he'd swear blind he did not do it... all these despite seeing it with my own eyes.
he also cannot take advices. for example, despite having incessant cough, he continues to drink cold tea, something that all in the family had advised against, at least temporarily till his cough stop, he wouldn't listen. similarly, he would eat and eat without due considerations to his weight. it is not possible to convince him that he should manage his weight. his reasons, has always been that he is diabetic and needs to eat. but soon enough, i realized this is an excuse... how do you explain eating a huge bowl of noodle, claim he is full, then slurped another packet of nasi lemak, then eat bread? all within an hour? and when asked, his reply is - "oh, got food so i eat lor"... and through chinese new year, he'd munch away all the oranges, cookies and bak kwa. not giving a hoot about his cough or the fact that he is diabetic. last month, i bought 600 grams of li kiam (preserved plums) and he finished them all within a week!
he's a medicine lover. has been taking all sorts of medication by himself through his life to the extend that his liver stopped functioning in 2000. he is lucky to be alive today. yet, he did not learn his lesson. he would often utter all sorts of expletives when he goes to the doctor and not get the amount of medicine he expects to get. and he'd sleep through the day and stay up whole night coughing, watching tv, play with the dog, eat and so on. and then he would go to the doctor to complain of insomnia and ask for sleeping pills. and really, i was upset when the doctor concluded that he is suffering from depression and told him that he needs to be referred to psychiatrist without even checking his sleep habits. talking about staying up at night, he would call my brother through the night and chat with him over the phone.
yesterday, i received a letter from the police telling me that there have been silent calls to `999' over the last 2 months and that some of the calls occur as early as 4plus in the morning. not sure how i can manage this and smsed my sis and brother to help. not easy and certainly i don't feel good having to tell him off once a while. decide not to talk to him about it anymore as his mentality now is that i'm trying to restrict him. also, i'll probably explode if i do engage him in any talk at this point in time.
he is 76 year old. an old man. but then again, this has to be managed. and i am really at my wits end now.
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